i know you all went thru this before, my gfs family is poor period. i love my girlfriend to death. unfortunatly i had to leave dumaguete and come back to hawaii cuz my year expired. anyway, what would u consider being used compared to helping. my money is just enough for me and i often have just enough to get by, and im trying to save money for my return to dumaguete and my plane ticket. i have just enough to give my gf. i dont want her to work because something happend at her job that was not good. if i dnt have to give her she gets mad and always brings up her work and gets mad and i get mad and we just end up fighting. what do u think?