prcess to have us citizen "black listed" to stop entry into ph

it's me again- crazy ex gf says she met sunday with atty Ping/friend at dswd in Manila to file complaint with dswd then onto us embassy stopping my entry into ph this oct 16th.She demanded & "promised" if I paid her 80,000p not to go- so I paid it by wu.then she demanded 30,000p "promised" same to go work overseas/japan,so I paid her demand by wu.Then demanded I stop living in house I have 2yr lease on(my signature only).I met with dumaguete police/tourist officers june 12- then both her & I met dswd lady in dauin-ALL SEX WAS BETWEEN US WAS 100% CONSENUAL & and I have her hand written letter stating so.I paid her demands not out of any guilt,but to rid myself of this crazy ex telling her "you cannot force any man to love you" I think this is blackmail & am asking this forum for guidance- thx- TB

 

Also never,ever hit/hurt or force anything/anytime.i'm worried about my ability to enter/fight these scandal charges - thx

 

She will continue to do this as long as you continue to pay her for it, she's making good money, why stop? Insanity is to continue do the same thing over and over and expect a different result.

Larry

 

Agreed,& thx 4 our thoughts shadow.but i'm more concerned what problems i may have getting into ph to fight any charges by her friend @ dswd/manila/atty ping .any others have faced similar issues ?? Any help/guidance is greatly appreciated

 

When you first posted about this problem last June, you were given some sound advice. Did you follow up on that?

Sorry to be blunt, but you are trying to negotiate with a terrorist....have you ever heard of that working out well for anyone?

As I see it, you have five choices...

1. Get off her radar ( Remove yourself from her sphere of influence and cut off all contact with her immediately)
2. Make it an unbearably difficult experience for her to keep you on her radar. ( Using the legal system..or not)
3. Kill her ( not recommended)
4. Kill yourself (not recommended)
5. Repair your relationship with her (not recommended)

 

You've given in to her financial demands more than once, and that's not too smart. However, if your version is correct, then by making the demand and then reneging after you paid the money, she has put her own head in the noose. In legal circles "hoist by your own petard" is the phrase used. See an attorney and file your own case against her for "Estafa". This is the phrase used in the Philippines legal system for swindling. You're not the first and you certainly won't be the last. It's quite ironic that Gwen Garcia has introduced a Bill to protect Filipinas from "vagabond" foreigners.

Estafa is committed by a person who defrauds another, causing him to suffer loss and damage by means of unfaithfulness or abuse of confidence. The essential elements of Estafa are:-

1. The deceit employed to defraud.
2. The injury or damage caused.

 

Thx,larry & broadside.all communications stopped,i intend to see atty raymund mercado(unless others know better qualified pertaining to my specific issue) when making myself scarce,does that mean moving away from duma/dauin area to another providence ? Or would valencia area work ? Yes,i listened/followed previous input(dumaguete tourist police,dauin dswd,police - reports),as i will definitely do based on this advice,upon my return to dumaguete - big thx to all - so is moving(scarcity) best done by moving to another providence or will valencia work ?and is atty mercado best legal counsel from forums experience?

 

I would highly recommend that if she keeps this up, counter sue her (extortion) and I bet you any money she will stop. Show your atty her messages asking for money and all the threats. Once you do this and she realise she's up for big amounts of money for courts fees then she will never bother you ever again.



my ex-best friend did the same thing ( I've helped her financially but she has used my sister to gain financial access of one of my properties there) so when I found out and told her I want to cut all ties for good she was furious and threatened me that he will tell my husband that I have a lover if I stop supporting her and because she's my best friend she thinks everyone will believe to whatever she reveals. I didn't give in, instead of paying her to go away I got an atty instead ( better do the legal way and be done with it) so when she receives a letter from him then she started being nice but bad luck, it's ON. She ended up getting herself in a huge debt (250 thousand) by the time I decided I've had enough with the justice system and I've had my vengeance :-). She pleaded to never contact me again for anything and we put that in writing nor bad mouth me to anyone and if she does, she takes responsibility to all charges I've previously filed against her. (Expedite the process) and that's how it all ended.

goodluck! If she thinks your weak and your gonna give in to her wants she's just gonna keep doing it to you. So I suggest be smart about it :-)

 

I had a similar situation but not nearly as costly .. so far anyway. The girl was here visiting from another island and stayed with me a few days. While shopping in Lee she had a melt down tantrum and said she was going to have her sister's attorney BF file a case on me if I didn't buy her and her sister gifts. This caught me completely off guard. Long story short she was due to leave the next day so I caved to her demands and it cost me about 3000p to make it all right in her world. I put her on the plane the next day and saved all of her texts for the next week telling me how much she loved me and missed me and that I could come stay with her on her island. Then I changed my SIM and blottered her. Surprisingly to me the police said this is very common here. I decided that if I hear anything out of her (legally) I'm getting a lawyer to counter and going after her with a vengeance. As it turns out most of her sisters and cousins are parasites living off of foreigners.