A trip to the BI in Dumaguete Yesterday

Yesterday morning was my first trip to the Bureau of immigration here in Dumaguete. All my paperwork was fine and had no problems getting my extension and a ARC-I card ordered. But something is seen their bothered me quite a bit. While I was waiting for my papers to be processed a American man came in he was 39 years old and sh*t face drunk is very loud and boisterous and could not even fill out some paperwork as his wife attempted to fill up the paperwork. He was speaking with another young gentleman telling him how he was a telemarketer home and that he had been ripped off by his bank and stole all his money back in the US I felt sorry for his young wife as you could truly see the embarrassment on her face. Later after I left the office my wife had told me of the conversation she had with the wife. My wife told me that they were married just four months ago when he arrived and that the young lady had to sell 2 of the family cows one to support them during his stay in the second pay for his trip home. This bothers me for some reason knowing that this put a great financial burden on the family. The young lady also told my wife very embarrassed with her friends family and neighbors due to her husband's drinking. Rant over

 

Oh Dear! but it really is not the first time it has happened. I feel so much for anyone hearing this happen. and I feel for your wife here to have heard it all. I don't wish to tread on the OP's toes on this but lets look at it from other angles.
People Come and people go, but in the main we are all above this. Too many times we hear bad luck Stories that (Well are they true?) lets face it Banks don't just Steal Money [Do they?] I feel so sorry for the Wife of 4 months but would have to ask, Why do you put up with it? Surely you knew he had no money before he came. Who Paid for the wedding?
Some will be saying OH jack's being harsh again, No Jack is being a realist. At 39 any man should be in complete control of things at home, asking a Lady to marry him when things are unstable and I tend to think this is a big sign of things will go wrong. One has to wonder just who was wearing the Rose Coloured glasses at the start of the relationship?

I know that the OP probably did not want to hear the answers that may come on this Thread but to me, I smell some sort of Scam starting here
Anytime I go out and hear a conversation like this is an opener for the day I get these very Loud Alarm bells start to ring.
If the young Lady, doesn't get things sorted I think a life of Misery lays ahead for her. or was it a Ruse?
I am very Surprised that Peter Bueno allowed this to continue and to me it was a prime example of why a Tourist visa should not be extended.

Sorry guys and Gals but this one has got me up tight with other things that are being said about us
it's just my Opinion But....................................

JP

 

Jack I totally understand what you're saying funds just do not disappear from the bank personally I don't believe this man was financially stable when he arrived. I believe the young lady was taken advantage of and I do not foresee a stable future for this couple I have no idea what their relationship was prior to his arrival.

 

Thank's for this DR, it is just what I was trying to get over. Not sure if he is stable at all not just Financially.
Thing that makes me sit up and think is that selling 2 Cows is not going to support a Drinking man and get a Ticket Home + his fare to Manila ( Cebu)+ expenses.
Plus, if she was sending him Home, why the need for and Extension.
It all makes me think, Badly I guess but we all know what is or is not possible, don't we?
Of course if the Young Lady has been taken Advantage of then I really do feel sorry for her but then again, she talks about Family, where were they in all this?
Nah! to me there is more to this than this than meets the eye I think
Any way I doubt it will unfold any further, just hope your wife was not too upset by it all.
At least she will know what a good man she has got

JP

 

Jack his wife was clearing up his visa for him, to send him packing he has overstayed from what my wife was telling me. she took the initiative to get the information to boot him home before he got hurt.

 

There are morons/idiots from pretty much every country...sounds like we got another from mine.

Shawn

 

When the crazy, sad, exaggerated stories are spoken at a higher than normal volume more than likely avoid the people. Amazed he was not told to leave and return when sober, and his wife should never have allowed him to enter the BOI office. Hope he gets his supposed troubles worked out.

 

I wonder if it will ever come that a visa is only granted or extended if the person can prove the have the funds or means to support themselves while living here. he sure has shattered one young ladys life n dreams.

 

when i applied for my visa at the embassy in LA i needed to show bank statements and financial records

 

I am sure that at some stage this will be so. I guess the more we see and hear of this Type of Behaviour, it will surely get reported back to Manila.
lets face it so many Young Filipino ladies have to prove they can support themselves before they are allowed to leave the PI

JP
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Yes, as did I but then, it all depends on the Embassy/Immigration Office, some do, some don't want to see it.
Time that they all started to sing from the same Hymn sheet or at least the same Verse. Until they do we will I suspect, see and hear more of these things.

JP