Hey Dustin: I'm pretty sure i started this thingy in Dining on 11 Sept, the same day i started the "annual dining survey (duh?).....
Yeah, I can't remember why it was moved to the controversial section...and I'm not going to read through 7 pages to figure out why. I guess it can go back to the dining section for a second round.
So you agree that we disagree, and then try to make a few "withering comments" in an attempt to make your position look so much more holier than mine? I will reply by telling you that your assumptions are all wrong. That makes me question your decision to "make sure your family is well looked after". Decisions based on incorrect assumptions are often wrong. However, I am sure your future widow and any future new husband will greatly appreciate your generosity. Please note that I am not saying you are wrong. I am saying we disagree and belittling each other's decisions does nothing to change each other's minds.
but when I die she is told there is nothing extra. If she chooses not to stay because of that arrangement then I will buy her a ticket back to her family. In fact, I flat out told her its not a good deal for her and she could do better by finding a rich foreigner who will give her more financial aid while alive and leave her a house and money when he dies. But when I die and she has nothing but whatever personal effects I leave lying around, remember it was her choice to stay on those terms, right from day one. (Disclaimer: We are not legally married and have no children together. Those sounds pretty clear to me.... where is the "incorrect assumption" ??
Well, the first "incorrect assumption" is that I was talking to you. Beyond that. Read ALL the posts twice and answer once.
When I reply to a post that is addressed to me personally, (such as here, where I quoted you writing to me personally), then the post is for YOU, not for everyone else. They are welcome to read it, but not read anything INTO it. So yes, you are wrong in that respect.