These girls here, and I mean the bad ones, are some of the best actresses you will ever find. They know how to act out and kill you softly. You really do have to say "NO" from the start. That's the time you find out if they are really into you for reasons other than finances..
Wish I knew - I am a biologist AND have read some Shakespeare ("Oh, she doth teach the torches to burn bright! It seems she hangs upon the cheek of night Like a rich jewel in an Ethiope’s ear,"). But seems now it is too late! But great you have found the right one.
If you fight with them and they come back, generally that's a good sign. Most won't see argument as being worth the hassle. Either she's into you, or mental, but maybe perhaps the mental part is just a given.
really sophomoric advise given on a forum primarily read by long term expats who already are aware of the culture
Some people will constantly enter back into a strained, or even abusive, relationship - that is not a good thing. No personal intent to you - I am sure you are a good bloke.
I'd suggest that a person getting burned probably needs sophomoric advice. People who don't need that advice are either in long term relationships or celibate. If you can't disagree, argue, and make amends, I'd avoid that relationship. If the advice doesn't apply to you, there's no need to take it.
Very true. But some don't have strained or abusive relationships, so the advice applies. People don't always need to agree.
But you wrote "If you fight with them and they come back, generally that's a good sign." I disagree with that as it is OFTEN not a good 'sign' or response. So my disagreement is based solely on those in strained relationships (the group of people you exampled if you accept that 'fighting with you partner' is a strained relationship). So your advice does not apply to those who do NOT fulfill that criterion.
Mine regularly insists on paying at restaurants, buys groceries, asks how much household items were so she can pay for half, wants to pay for the gas to drop her off at work and complains when I spend on, from her perspective, frivolous goods and services. Several times I have caught her opening my wallet to put money in to it when I refuse her offers to pay for things. I'm having a hard time convincing her that I want to pay because these things are not a financial burden to me and that she should be taking her money and saving/investing it for retirement. Not a "problem" I ever thought I would have here. However, I have been through many of the "bad" ones here and never found any of them to be that good of actresses...unless I was drunk with severely impaired judgement or just listening to the wrong head..
