This is strictly my opinion based on observation, but I think "nice people" can develop their niceness not so much from what they have experienced, but more by how they think/feel from what they have experienced.
Empathy plays a big part in being "nice". How you think about where you've been and how you think about what you have experienced plays a part, too.
So I suppose for me, it's not so much about where I've been, it's more about how I think about where I've been/experienced.
Though pain can be a great teacher, it is far from being a gentle one. But it is the moving through the darkness of pain that one can often be presented with the dawning of a better day for their head and their heart and their hands. The "BE, KNOW and DO" of the human being.
There's a great little book out there I got on my 15th birthday and it's messages really helped me when I later experienced what many people would consider "traumatic events".
It's called "Man's Search For Meaning", written by Viktor Frankl
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nwlivewire DI Senior Member Showcase Reviewer Blood Donor Veteran Army Navy
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Jack Peterson DI Forum Luminary Highly Rated Poster SC Connoisseur Veteran Air Force
Bearing in Mind, that All Countries have War Vets not just the US. In the UK we are/Where called Officers and Gentlemen, NCO's and Enlisted men were /are considered above the a norm of the Rat Race. Something Long Forgotten
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I don't think being a vet makes much of a difference. I know some real nice guys that are vets....but I also know some that are monsters (especially after a few drinks). Just my 2 cents.
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