Some good advice from Pat0. There are only a few things you can change with them and everything has its limitations. As far as her English goes it will get better the longer she's with you but will also depend on her age and education level as well just how far she will reach. Far as getting her communication better put her on the spot at home more. Try and sit and talk about any topic or have a conversation in bed everynight before falling asleep (conversation I said!). But if you try and put her in any class's focusing just on English or communication that may hurt her self esteem. Now filipina's are shy and a few reasons for that. First off many think they are ugly while we think otherwise. These gals end up dressing that way and the way out of that is getting them a new wardrobe and forcing them to wear a sexier line of cloths...don't forget to educate them that sexy is what guys like, pretty is what girls like.... WE know whats sexy and NOT them. When they start dressing to impress guys and see guys including filipino's stare at them their self esteem goes through the roof realizing they aren't that ugly duckling. Also she is going to be concerned you'll leave her and get bored of her, or your just playing around. A few different ways to help that from spending a little cash on her for some nice things, to getting involved in the family (maybe sponsoring a birthday party of the youngest daughter if there is one, or just meeting family if they happen to be near). Can always remind them that you probably have gone through a lot of gals you've met, chatted with, txted, and so on and none of them interested you until them. Keep in mind just how you present this makes a huge difference as you don't want her to think your a man-wh*re hehe. Besides that keep her involved with you in activities, not just in bed. If all she see's of you is when you want to get some of course she's going to be worried. Go to the beach with her, maybe a trip to Cebu, driving or sightseeing. Next time you go drinking with buddies or chatting at McDoc or whatever take her with you... but do remember to limit your time as she will get bored fairly quick without gals to chat with. Avoid above advice is your drinking spot is at a girly bar unless she's into that sort of thing.
Hi, I'm new here... joined last Oct but this will be my 1st post. After reading the posts in this thread, I was just wondering if you guys have any tips for Filipina women who may be interested in finding a "good foreigner" friend/bf? :o Thanks
einoj, welcome to the DI forum and thank you for your post. I would think you may receive some interesting replies. I am married but willtry and chime in with some advice. Keep in mind, these are only my views and all guys are different. 1. Be well-groomed and well-dressed, for whatever fits your budget. If you are a little chubby, try and slim down a little (although many of the foreigners here are more than a little chubby themselves :-). 2. Go to the mall and maybe sit on the round benches near Sans Rival. If a guy walks by that you find interesting, give a big smile. 3. Put a picture of yourself in the personal section of the forum. 4. Many guys here met their partners via Cherry Blossoms and other internet services. 5. Every morning there is a large contingent of foreigners at McDonald's, although many are too busy BS with each other to check out the ladies. 6. Be careful of the wolves, guys looking for a one night stand. 7. I would not go out late at night, guys are drunk by that time. 8. Depending on your boldness, many foreigners go to Why Not, others can comment more on what goes on there as I've never been there. 9. Be selective, don't dress to sexy, but not too modestly either. As stated, keep smiling. Best of luck to you, I bet you will find someone.
Thanks for the tips I'll keep them in mind. I'm not into the bar scene (have only set foot in Why Not many years ago when they had an internet cafe) but I hope that doesn't narrow my chances much.
More good advice from Pat0. I'd say though really be careful of the wolves. Guys like the chase and the chase ends when he gets you into bed, by that time you need to have shown him something special about you that would want him to keep you around after the initial chase. This means don't uncross your legs to fast or your just a bit of side fun but don't expect him to wait a long time either. My sound brutal but its honest. When out with him take a look at where he goes with you and how physically direct he is at first. If he's avoiding taking you out to open public places he probably is hiding from a GF or wife and is just wanting side fun. If you get with a foreigner and friends/family start saying he's a chick boy don't believe it without real evidence. He may have been meeting dozens of girls looking for the right one, that doesn't mean he has lots of GFs or such. Besides that looking to meet a foreigner we are all over. If you see one that may be of interest make eye contact and smile but be wary if their is another gal on his arm. If he is taken still make friends as many of us have friends and some who are single and decent looking we may introduce when we know the gal and guy are both decent or least compatible. Its called networking hehe, one taken foreigner may be your way in with an available foreigner. Then their are numerous sites like I used dateinasia and tagged (both free) myself and many that the guy has to pay for which aren't as good as they require payment. Dress nice, don't be to shy, we like our gals to dress sexy but if they are dressing that way before we meet them we get a bit untrusting.
I have been on filipinaheart (now filipinocupid). I also just joined Cherry blossoms like Pat0 said. I'll try the sites you mentioned. Thanks again.
Great, and keep this site in mind too! Pointman Cebu - Do you have questions or concerns about your Filipina being a scammer? Larry
