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  1. Rye83

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    So I've lived at this property for about four years now. Had a new tenant (foreigner,gf and gf's mother) move in about 6 months ago. Since then there have been a few issues. I'm a little unsure of how to proceed with. (My problem solving strategies are a bit heavy handed) It must also be noted that the mother of the gf has been hired as the property manager. (This means little to me as I am in good standing with the landlord and I don't really care what the property manager has to say, any issues I have bypass this woman and go straight to the landlord...... until she really pushes my buttons,in which case there is a whole lot of crap that needs cleaning and fixed that's not technically my job to take care of......I'll put her to work)

    There seems to be a bit of an issue of the hours I keep and the loudness of my motorcycle (1000cc sports bike with Two Brothers exhaust). I live at the back of the property, my parking area is also at the back of the property. I must drive by their rental to get to mine.

    My issue with this: I've lived on this property for four years. I've kept the same hours for four years. I feel that it is the responsibility of a new tenant to investigate if a rental property fits their lifestyle. It's no secret to anyone here what my hours are. I drive very slowly and keep the RPMs to a minimum as I know it is loud, I just don't feel I should have to go sell my bike or park at the gate to satisfy some whiner.

    There have been a few other complaints made against me to the landlord but they were apparently nothing to be concerned of as they weren't even brought up me until I asked if there were complaints (and I was told not mind the complaints anyhow).

    Now here is my main issue with all of this: Not a single time has a problem been directly addressed to ME. They always are sent via text to my girlfriend from the the mother of the gf or the gf of this foreigner. I pay the rent, my names on the lease, I pay all the bills. I think a property manager should have the sense to contact the person who is actually renting the place.

    My plan as of right now is to wait until it happens again and then go speak to the foreigner directly about the issue. Perhaps he is completely unaware such complaints are being made. (I wouldn't complain of such things myself and if I heard my gf's was doing so she'd be told to stfu or get out)

    If that doesn't do any good then my heavy handed tactics kick in (Fireblade 13k rpms at 5am, early morning swimming sessions..... with the pump on of course, house parties and so forth) until one of us is asked o leave. I have intentionally made it a point to not make friends on the property because of the dramatic nature of many of the tenants. I really hate it when I'm forced into the BS.

    Am i going about this wrong? Anyone else had issues like this?
     
    Rye83, Feb 22, 2014
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    Would it do any good to buy the foreigner a bottle of his favorite booze and have a couple drinks with him? Another not-so-nice tactic would be to play karaoke music once you arrive home at 5am, then when they b*tch make a deal you will not do karaoke if they will stop their bitching. Never fun to have people on your butt where you live; however, you can’t kick @ss because they would probably have you charged.
    I suppose coasting your bike down to your appt would not work?
     
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    Whether others use your GF as intermediary is ultimately up to you and your GF. I had the same problem when I lived in Pampanga. My girlfriend and I set the rules on what she would relay to and fro and what she would not. On issues off limits to us, she would just tell the landlady "Oh, that's between you and him.", end of story.
    I will also say that more often than not I appreciated having my GF do much of the intermediary stuff. I wanted to see my landlady as infrequently as possible and I was grateful that she and my GF got along fine.
    Why others use a GF to communicate with the foreigner is another story; I think it's just more comfortable for them to do so, to use a cultural buffer. I can understand and accept that at face value, I'd probably do the same thing if the tables were turned.

    On the motorcycle and noise, if it's not too inconvenient, I would say at certain late hours, just turn off your bike before it offends, and push it back past their place too your own. Major PITA I imagine (I know), but I'm big on going the extra mile to accommodate others on that kind of thing. They will notice what you do for them and it will change the tone of your relationship entirely. I would not recommend doing anything to provoke or intimidate them into leaving you alone.

    We give and receive vegetables and small marienda meals with our closest neighbors regularly. In a brownout, we visit them quickly to see if they need candles. It feels good to get along nicely with the neighbors and the secondary benefit is that it serves as a social lubricant and whenever any one of us needs a little slack (usually about noise), the slack is always there even without having to ask for it.

    My peso equivalent of 0.02 $ .
     
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    Unfortunately my driveway is up hill....and I'm a horrible singer,how much is a karaoke machine?
     
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    DumaJohn: As I said, it's up a steep hill and it weighs 400 pounds. I physically cannot get it into my parking area, at least not without extremely straining myself. The bike is something that he/they need to deal with as far as I'm concerned. I highly doubt I'd be asked to leave for that.
     
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    Wrye, got it, I wasn't aware of the weight of the bike or the existence of the hill at the time I posted. I understand where you're coming from now.
     
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    No worries. What gets me is that I recall the guy looking at the apartment...... and me driving by on my big bike when the were scoping out the property. I'm actually quite tempted to put loud exhausts on my 2 other bikes.....and then get my 2 other 750cc's running......strange what motivates us.
     
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    Why are u posting this on here?? Shouldn't you go directly to the party involved and sit down and have a talk with them and sort it out the best you can..??? You might find that doing that will make you guys closer and friendlier tenants...
     
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    Easy to reduce the problem by 50% without straining yourself: Ride the bike down your drive without starting the engine. Attempt to reduce the remaining 50% aggrevation using some alcoholic beverage and a friendly chat.

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    I dont want to be friends or even friendly (especially to someone who has used these less than legitimate ways of relaying problems about me, and I certainly dont buy those types a drink), I retain a neutral attitude with neighbors. I wish to continue about my life as I had the past 4 years and be left alone, that's it.

    I am giving them a 3rd chance to knock the crap off. (I have already warned the property manager she had stepped over the line and issues need to be addressed to me directly, her boss agreed.) I think the problem could be solved now. I don't hold grudges, as far as I'm concerned the issue is gone. If it happens again I take a more severe approach to it.

    I guess you can tell I've already decided on how I will deal with this.
     
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