I am all set to leave in September and arrive to try Dumaguete as a possible retirement home base. I still have some traveling I want to do.. and scuba diving in Thailand and Bali, etc.. . but I am looking for a home base for at least the first year. For the past four years I have been taking care of my father who is 92 years old and has Alzheimer's Disease. In March I brought him to Denver from Florida to live with my sister as she has been asking for this opportunity to spend time with him and care for him and so with my plans to leave it seemed the ideal solution. The weather in Florida is a little better suited to my fathers condition then Denver but the only other sibling I have lives in New York and only visits Florida on Holidays maybe 6 times a year, and would not want to be a caregiver. So we came to Denver and since i did not want to just drop him off and leave I have stayed around to help them all get comfortable together also my niece is getting married the end of August and all the family will e together so September seemed a good date to set my departure. As this time approaches my sister has informed me she cannot deal with my father living at her home and is going to put him in an assisted living facility when I leave. While I understand her decision it pains me to think of my Dad living in a facility and spending most of his time lost, confused and among strangers who will most likely look at caring for him as a burden. So my question is... does anyone think it would be possible for me to bring him with me and have some live-in help there to help with his care. I know the help is readily available but my concern is the government regulations on retirees...? he is 92 and needs help to walk or move any distance over a few hundred yards.. and as I said he has Alzheimer's and so is not mentally able to care for himself or answer questions about himself. He would be totally dependent on me as if I was traveling with a 3 year old child. I was not planning on a permanent visa status right away but if that would make a difference I could arrange for that for him and for me if needed.. the financial aspect is not an issue.. I am only concerned with the visa issues etc.. ? if anyone can answer any of this I would be very grateful...? thanks
Wish you luck with your situation Rob. I'm sure someone from the states living in Negro's will be able to advise you about visa's etc. My personal thought's are that he may well be better off living in Denver with family nearby. His condition will worsen with time and sadly he may not recognise even his children. I wish you all best regards JB
