Other venues, small mindedness

I like Dumaguete. Natives here are mostly nice and gentle and honest. But I find many locals here to have a stereotypical small mindedness, especially when it comes to matters of sex and man/woman relationships. Maybe it's because I have not interacted much with the upper classes here, but I find a percentage here to be judgemental in a religious sort of way, don't really know how to explain it. Certain aspects of their cultural expectations regarding courtship are difficult to tolerate. The younger women here do not particularily want older white guys and the ones that do seem to look for a guy that will be very generous, just make them feel good, without much consideration to the practicalities and whether or not the relationship has a chance for long term success. They are unsophisiticated, the ones I have met.
The other thing I don't like is what I consider to be high costs for a small town. The shopping is poor and I have yet to hear good music here, a good band. No jazz, no piano bars that I know of. For a university town there is no culture here.

So considering places like Davao, Cebu, CDO among others. But I am torn. I really don't want to give up the friendliness I find here among the locals, the relative safety of the place and the ease to get around town cheaply. Anyone else considering those places or lived there? I think Davao might be as cheap or even cheaper than Dumaguete with alot more to offer as a City. I guess I will have to visit to find out.

 

http://www.dumagueteinfo.com/board/other-destinations-philippines-asia/other-venues-s

Sir ; You might take note that Barkadas Jazz plays at both El Amigo and Azul on the weekends . Ron

 

My experience here is quite opposite to this. Perhaps it is that I am meeting different people than you meet, or perhaps my expectations are different. Try visiting those places you mention to see how you like them. To answer your question, I lived in Cebu but I like Dumaguete better.

 

Did a search on the name you gave and dumaguete and got 0 results. So either they have not been reviewed or wrong spelling/name? The groups I've seen on the Blvd. are in the main mediocre at best.

 

I see many complaints from guys who are either looking to get out of Cebu or already have. In my short trip to the place, I found the air polluted, traffic terrible. Supposedly Davao is cleaner and friendlier, not so big cityish. But the selection of pretty ladies who actually speak English fairly proficiently is much higher than in Dumaguete.

 

Can we take it then, you will be moving to Davao? You Obviously, Don't Like it and are not very happy here, in Dumaguete.

 

Davao is ok if you can get your nose past the smell of Durian

 

Foursquare is a great place to look.

https://foursquare.com/v/azul-restaurant-and-lounge/51b30c17498eab8b3a7f9b4e

https://foursquare.com/v/el-amigo/4c32f9e2a0ced13ab4e0156e

Just keep meeting people. All it takes is to find the right one. You only need to find one.

Visit other places for sure.

 

Yes, I think I will take your advice. And that is the other problem that you pointed out. Dumaguete has a dirth of older, more experienced, mature women who are not married or saddled with several kids. I think it is a dilemma to find such a woman who also has the feminine qualities that are so endearing to most men. But of course much better than the situation back home.