This is a page I found interesting regarding Western Men marrying Filipinas and the pitfalls they can run into; Why do so many men report bad Filipina dating/marrying experiences? Larry
As compared to what; Russian, Czech, Thai? I'd bet the ration of love vs. meal ticket minded women is still better here than in most Western men's home turf. Trust me, I've experienced both For an example, watch the CBC video: My Thai Bride Such a sweet girl..
It happens nearer home too! You would be surprised, at the number of Scottish women, that marry Englishmen and live in England for a better life. How odd, that Scotland want's Indipendance Now my friends, that, is Food for thought. JP
"Cultural Prostitution" "Cultural Prostitution" as mentioned in link is an Interesting concept. I have had more than one young attractive Filipina tell me she was the family "bread winner" which I think meant she was suppose to support the family while using her assets with foreigners with money. "The concept of cultural prostitution is so endemic and integrated within the filipino culture that its people do not want to admit it for what it is. They get offended when I raise this concept with them." from response on link...
Well written I thought but a lot of generalizing on the Filipino. I found this odd, as the Author says he will omit any generalizing posts as a follow up. My guess is, that he is a once, Bitten twice shy, Guy. One would have to wonder, what he would have written if it were another country's Lady he was involved with. If you search the net, you can find thousands of these type of reports. in Fact if you Google up just about any. of the 3rd world Country's Scam Pages, you would pull out your hair at the stories. having said that, I found it good reading but it only told us what I think we already knew. I think though, many of us here on DI, would have a different story to tell. I guess it would be more geared to a man, who is not too savvy on marrying, an Asian/any 3rd world Country's lady. just my opinion here, JP
Generalizing is the worst thing but one can hardly avoid it making conclusions based on our own experience. This is how every human tries to protect theirselves from possible mistakes i guess. In subj: I strongly recomend a movie with amazing Geoffrey Rush in the leading part. Its a story about a guy who falls in love with a girl much younger. Its called " La Migliore Offerta" by italian director Giuzeppe Tornatore but its fully in Eng so everyone could understand. I guess in Eng it might have been called "Best offer". To American audience it may seem a bit slow and not so dynamic but this is European school of filmography eheheh, try to watch it till the end.)
The article is a little one sided and appears to lump together all marriages. My guess is those foreigners who meet a girl on the internet and do not spend sufficient time to know the culture here, the girl, her background, her family (extended) and with rose colored glasses meets a young shapely beauty, bangs her, then decides to marry her are very naive and are high risk in a lasting marriage. We come here with a bulls eye target on our chest. Some of us here had bad girlfriends before we met the “right” one. There is some goodness from those experiences. Personally, if I would have married my gf (not a bar girl) from Makati I had before, I would have gone insane. It may take 6 or 8 months to determine the risk/reward potential. A 1 or 2 week trip plus emails is not enough, plain and simple.
Yes, I can only speak from my own experience and the wider network of friends with Filipina wives down here….and the fact is most do very well. I wouldn't waste my time on the article (although I read it) and the responses which were all over the shop….Frankly we have done the distance….well over three decades…and I know several others that have….and in fact I would have to say from what I know here - that I doubt the success rate for marriages to Filipinas and Westerners here (not all Australian - some ethnic Italian, or British for example) would be less than 80%….and where it didn't work out I'd say that most were because of the husband - alcohol, laziness, maltreatment, etc…Most work out fine. Sore subject with the local women here too….but never mind….None of us care….
The article addresses the latest trend, foreigners finding the love of their life online, then coming and marrying them without really knowing them at all. This is becoming one of the top sources of income for the Philippines, "find a foreigner and all our troubles go away". Three decades ago, things were different, I'm sure. But now, as someone who has been doing private investigations here for 8 years, I assure you the horror story provided as an example would be a MILD case, compared to some we have seen. Scamming foreigners has become BIG business here, like it or not. SO big, the authorities won't touch it or try to stop it. It brings lots of money in, so why try to stop it? I do agree though, that the quality of individual who usually comes here looking for a bride is often less than a perfect humanoid specimen, and that many of them unknowingly seek out and deserve their own undoing. Most here probably do not need to heed the warnings in the article, but believe me there are some here who do, I won't mention any names! Larry
Actually, that's a very old way of living, I think they were called "Markettenderins" or something like that, they accompanied the troops and did washing, cleaning and "other" services for the soldiers...
