Can't fix stupid?

What I have noticed is that many (not all, of course) of the guys coming here looking for a wife are complete social rejects in the West that no woman from their own country would waste more than 5 minutes with...with many of these guys seeming to not have had any positive attention from the opposite sex in decades (I'm guessing their mothers weren't too loving). Extremely low self-esteem, domestic abuse, prone to violence, fidelity and jealously issues seems to be a very common problem with these types. Coming to a country where their poverty level income (usually from a disability/retirement/online porn website check from the West) ensures that they get the attention their mothers never gave them only encourages these types to do everything they can to remain in the country, which leads to the easiest solution to stay in country...marriage. These losers benefit just as much as opportunistic Filipinas do from the no divorce rule in the country. A foot in the door to their own perceived paradise.

 

That was the side affect of that one individual vaccine. A new one could have unknown and new risks at higher numbers, and with politics the way they are today, the large numbers of idiots and populace sociopaths (Trump, Duterte, Winnie the Pooh, that knob in Hungary, Johnson, etc) with their desperation to get everything up and running again to maintain power, I simply do not trust they will do what is in the best interest of the people or even inform us of the dangers. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that they would kill millions just to stay in office. I know where they can shove any rushed vaccine created during their time in office, ESPECIALLY if it came with any assistance from a Chinese lab.

 

I'm not certain it is as common as you perceive it to be.

Maybe we could look at it from a different angle: We shouldn't forget that these men are adults with agency. They have made a decision, one that is in line with cultural expectations in their host country and is not uncommon among locals, to support their spouse and extended family. I'm almost certain that the reasons behind such a decision vary greatly between individuals.

Some likely do so because they have had past trauma in their life and have grown into a less than perfect adult (as we all are) with huge insecurities about desertion and trust and do it out of fear of losing their spouse.

Some likely do it because they truly love their spouse and want them and their family to prosper and be comfortable.

There could also be some with malicious intent that are actually the predators in this situation (not the spouse's family).

There are many who mutually benefit from such an arrangement. Say a foreigner is ill and needs to be taken care of. The family takes care of the foreigner while the foreigner takes care of the family. Quid pro quo.

There are a thousand other reasons why a man may choose to support their spouse's extended family. Is it admirable? Well IMO, that really depends on the intent and that is something that can only be known by looking at each case individually. Regardless, if nobody is being harmed I see no issue with it and I wouldn't look down on anyone just for having such an arrangement.

Additionally, from what I have personally seen there are very few foreigners that are being taken advantage of by the locals. Most of the time both parties are gaining from the relationship in some way (which is completely normal for relationships) or, which I see quite often, it is the opposite way around: Mentally unstable men controlling local women to an abusive level.

These type of men eventually get burned at their own game, but many times this is just a local doing what needs to be done to escape a relationship that they are, very frequently, financially held hostage to. I've heard countless sob stories from both the foreigner and Filipino viewpoint. Both parties almost always share some blame in the breakup but I tend to side with the Filipina who comes from a life of poverty, poor education and lack of opportunity. The foreigner knows better, knows how to reach out and knows how to get help for their mental issues. Their mental illness is in no way a defense for their cruelty.