Best Posts in Forum: Dumaguete City

Sometimes it does work. My neighbor came to the Phils in his early thirties and on his first day in Dgte, straight off the boat, he asked his pedicab driver where he could find a good wife. Pedicab driver dropped him off at his house and introduced him to his niece. They dated for two weeks, but there was just no spark. Driver introduced him to his other niece. She was 19, and poor as. Wasn’t educated. She was selling fish by the roadside. They dated, and now they’ve been married for 39 years, and have three grown kids who are just lovely. And they are still going strong. You don’t have to get an educated woman. You just need to find a loyal one who will stay with you through the bad days.

 

This video has the feel of one of the countless times I have watched some drunken dude in a bar here drone on about nothing interesting. Why give this guy the time of day? He must think he is quite special that I should convince him with reports, spreadsheets, expert testimonials, etc. Especially when he didn't offer anything of the sort himself.

There is nothing controversial about drunken rambling.

I don't know this is quite trolling, but you can see how easy it is to bait people on Facebook.

As for the material.

Yes, poor women seek security from men who can provide for both her and the family. This happens in every country. Once poor women become independent, then the needs change as they work their way up the needs charts. This genius insight was probably discovered back when we were living in caves. Congrats to him for figuring it out.

The U.S. per capita GDP is so large that the Philippines is more the norm than the exception. U.S. income is the outlier, not the Philippines. This disparity follows Americans to the majority of comparisons with random people in this world. People don't need to come to the Philippines to be the rich man among poor women.

Old, white men come here because they can. We like to travel and explore. Even before we learned to walk, we were crawling places and getting into sh*t. When we get here, we feel comfortable.

There are many publications which show Dumaguete as a great retirement location. You won't find prostitution listed among the reasons.

This guy just needs to get back to the bar (or Missouri) and keep his conversations between other drunks rather than broadcasting himself to the world.

 

Please don't paint us all with the same brush. Most of us resident expats here have families and lead normal, law abiding lives. Of course we came here because we can afford a better life here, but my first consideration was my families future. I can afford to send children to school and university here without them having to be burdened with student debt. They can afford their own homes. Of course employment here is a major problem, but if the are well educated, then they can succeed. As for corruption, of course it is overt, whereas in our home countries it is covert. If you think that sex, booze and drugs are the reasons we live here, you need to meet the majority of expats here whom lead lives not too dissimilar to the lives we back home. Many single expats have visited ( pattaya- bangkok ) these places in the past, this is because of broken marriages etc etc. Many are looking for someone to settle down with for the rest of their lives and live a peaceful life. It's easy enough to pick out the arseholes within 30 seconds of conversation. As for all the expat drifters that come here, I have no control over them and do not include them in my circle of friends.

 

As a true-blooded Dumaguetena, born & raised here, I am inclined to agree with all of your observations. Dumaguete has changed, greatly changed from the Dumaguete of my childhood when we used to swim right there in the waters of the boulevard by the sea. The pedicabs then were pedaled, there were more horse-drawn vehicles than motorized ones so pollution was not much of a problem, etc. etc.

But when I tried to go to work in a bigger city like Manila and made a few trips to Cebu, I would always long to go back to Dumaguete. Life is crazier in bigger cities I have made a decision to make Dumaguete as my home. There are a lot of things to be fixed in this city but compared to the hassle and bustle of bigger cities, I am willing to cope and survive.

 

I was living in Luzon until my Canadian friend's house was sold. Nice house on the beach, but far from nearest town (Candon City) and no available females so I went online, and asked for girls from Dumaguete area. Tons of replies, and I found one from a nice (religious) family. She was 20 years younger than me. Unfortunately (for her) she was missing an eye, and her family told her she would never get a man.
We have have been married now for almost 7 years and there has never been a problem. Love her and her family!

 

I don't know how many threads in how many forums I did read over the years, where people are mentioning, and complaining, about dogs, Karaoke, roosters,corruption
and Pinoy behavior and manners in general.

Nothing has changed and nothing will change.

Neither you can deal and live with all of this issues, or you can't.

If you can you can live in a third world country with all its advantages and disadvantages. Noisy environment, corruption, murder and a non working legal system will be part of your life, as well as warm weather, beautiful young girls, and a lifestyle most of you probably couldn't afford in your home country.

If you can't deal with the circumstances of life here, it would be better to leave. Better for you, better for your neighbors, better for everybody.

If you try to change things here, you will be constantly disappointed and frustrated. And non successful. And maybe some day you will be a victim of shooting or stabbing.

In my opinion the Philippines are far away from being a dream country. It's just a place where you can manage your life. Or not.

 

It is good to read postings from people with empathy - I think those who have it, know it and those who have none are unaware.

I do not wish to discuss this particular case as I know nothing more than what is posted here but I think (and this will not be a popular comment with some guys) that in some cases of dispute between a man and a woman, the woman can feel very powerless and so strikes out with something that is more powerful than the man (be it a knife, gun etc.). If we think of women from poor situations who lives are lifted up financially by meeting a foreigner and then see that ebbing away from them (perhaps very suddenly), with thoughts of going back to what they had, perhaps having to face the scorn of their families, then it is not impossible to see where anger and frustration flows from. And add to that the very powerful emotion of love and it can end in an explosion. Something we all need to think about, especially if ever a difficulty arises in our own personal relationships.