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  1. Justice911

    Justice911 DI Member Restricted Account Showcase Reviewer

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    Hello forum members, we tend to criticize with our Western mentality to Filipino behavior or circumstances. But what I experienced tonight is unique !!!

    Our 10 month old female Belgian Shepherd Dog escaped accidentally from our property and we searched for her in vain desperately for one our in the darkness of the night.

    Coincidentally there were 10 Filipinos playing basketball at 11 pm in the night in the neighborhood and I told them about our loss. They immediately stopped playing basketball and said “we will help you to find the dog” and behold, they managed to find our beloved dog in the deep darkness.

    We were so thankful to them for this amazing act of kindness.
     
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  2. PatO

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    EDIT: Post Header should say Four Year Stroke Update
    I post periodic updates on my stroke recovery to offer a heads up on hopeful prevention and warning signs for others to ponder.
    To repeat earlier updates, you should have your blood pressure checked regularly as well as your cholesterol level. If you feel stressed, headaches, dizziness, or numbness in your arms or legs, do not ignore those signs like I did.
    So four years later it appears like I have recovered about all that is probable (but I tell myself not impossible to get better). I am about 2/3 the man I used to be; paralysis in the right arm and leg and numbness in the left arm and leg. I have had to learn to be one-handed left-handed. My balance and control is about half normal and I had to learn how to walk again, with assistance. I require a driver and need him by my side while walking (not nearly a normal walk). I need a cane for steps and getting up.
    The good news is last month we celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary and this Thursday is my son's 6th birthday party. I feel blessed to be alive and able to participate. I am also blessed to have a great wife to take care of me and an extended family to look after me. I am able to go to the gym 5 times a week and walk the harbor walkway.
    Other than coffee and talking with guys at Sans Rival at the mall, I am a home body and happy to help my boy with his homework and my wife with her college studies.p, and watch sports.
    Once again I will close by saying take care, having a stroke has a catastrophic impact on your life, if you survive it.
     
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  3. Rye83

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    My biological father died when I was an infant and my step father (dad) stepped up and filled that father role. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man doing this. I would argue it takes an even bigger man to step up and be a good role model and father figure for a child that isn't his biological child. It is a very admirable trait IMO. I'm glad my dad didn't see me as extra "baggage".
     
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    No-one can read what you have written without feeling the most real, true and deepest sympathy for you, your wife and other family members.

    We cannot imagine what you have gone through and are still suffering now.

    The most important thing in your quest for answers and more, is to take care of yourselves. This is a very stressful time for you and you have to protect your feelings as you proceed.

    We can only give you our very best wishes and hope you find some form of satisfaction in your quest but understand why that will never be any real compensation to you.
     
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  5. ThatNewGuy

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    I have this place selling veggies that I regularly use in Dumaguete.
    It's a shack like most others.

    They always have stray dogs and sometimes cats.

    Today I heard a kitten crying for help, I responded and he came out after some time.

    His face and ears was full of infections and fungi. I fed him some sardines that I had bought and told him I will come back.

    After instructing the veggie seller to give him a bowl of water, I went to buy some remedies and soap/gloves.

    He was sleeping when I returned, must have been full of sardines.

    I put on disposable nitrile gloves and prepared the Safeguard. Unscrewed the fungus balm and started to clean him.

    No cat likes water they say, so to no surprise he tried to resist. I changed grip to the neck skin as their mothers do and he calmed down.

    Oh my god, his ears was packed with this thick dry layer, inside and out. Around his nose and eyes.

    After Safeguard I started rubbing in the balm, he now started to purrr. I think being touched and me massaging and scrubbing off this layer on the skin made him feel loved.

    He seems like a nice little guy and I would take him in if it was not for my landlord.

    I am going to follow him up with applying more balm and feed him, but is there anyone in here that has room for him in their lives?

    Here is two photos of him, one before my treatment and the other after.

    Thanks for reading
     

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  6. filmguy

    filmguy Ring Ring. Who's calling?

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    here is the latest update. Lisa has graduated from junior high and is currently staying with a child services employee. Right now she seems very happy. child services will interview here again and give there recomendations to the american embassy. After talking to the embassy they said they take the recomendations very serious. I have spoken to both agencies and recommended she be placed in foster care in Hawaii. The hawaiian people have similiar views on family that the filipinos do also she will look like all the rest of the kids there. the weather is the same and it is an island culture like here. I told Lisa to look up 5 American cities in the U.S. and google the ten best and worst things about those cities. She agreed with me that she thinks she would be the happiest in Hawaii. Now we will have to wait and see what will become of her. I will post when I know something I figure they will pick her up sometime in the next month.
     
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  7. okiebound

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    I ended up in the Philippines in 2009 with my Filipino husband and our 10 year old daughter. My husband was very ill with COPD and wanted to come "home" to live out the rest of his life surrounded by his family and friends in the Philippines. He loved it there. It was also one of the only ways for us to be able to afford for me to quit my 25 year career as a surgical nurse to care for him. While my daughter forged many new friendships and family relationships and feels the Philippines is as much home as the USA, we were forced to return to Oklahoma so that I could go back to work. I will always be grateful for the opportunity to have lived there and was treated, for the most part, wonderfully, and will always have fond memories.
     
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  8. Dave & Imp

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    Hey Dude, That was quite an admission you made about drinking. I have always enjoyed your post and consider you one of the guys that has some clear judgement and thinking here.. still do. I was involved in addiction counseling for over 13 years in the US on a voluntary basis. It was a faith based program, so although I believe in it, I would never push it on anyone. One of the secrets regarding any addition is that the real issue is CONTROL, not alchol or some other form of self-medication. People drink, have high risk sex, spend extra money, and do other crazy things because they are trying to gain control over their life. Start at that point of understanding and you can save yourself years of search for answers on your journey to get where you want to be. Admitting you have a drinking issue does not necessary mean you have to stop drinking. Just control your drinking and not let drinking control you (unles you have a chemical addition). If you ever need one to talk to someone I am willing to talk. I am not a hardliner, and do not think the taking a drink will mean you use your “Sobriety” as some do. Go ahead and attend AA, but do not stop thinking, or buy all their beliefs. You are a smart man who can make up his mine. Like all of us, you have some character defeats, but that does not mean you are weak. Life is a journey and everyday is a step on the path of that journey…. Somedays we are not on the path, sometimes we chose to be lost for a while. You history of facing reality seems to indicate you are honest with yourself and will be able to solve you issues. Do not allow guilt or embarrassment to alter you course to get where you want to go. Good Luck.
     
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  9. Jack Peterson

    Jack Peterson DI Forum Luminary Highly Rated Poster SC Connoisseur Veteran Air Force

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    Well you can all say what you like about, Noreco II but on a general Alert from Azon (my Wife) the linesmen attending work in VALENCIA ( some 8+ miles away from JUNOB) Spotted "Shadow" in the Woods and alerted us Well done you guys, as I write this, he is on his way home to a very relieved family.
    What more can I say but Thank you :thumbsup: and before anyone decides to make an issue, it is called Family, whether it is Actual or Professional :thumbsup:
    Thank You Guys :smile:
     
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  10. you_have_been_removed

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    I too have these thoughts about my in laws and have said time and time and time again to my wife, that if I dont go 1st, I am not going to waste necessary funds that I will need for our two kids in the years ahead (I'm not a religious person), if you spend a lot of what you have now trying to keep and old person alive using what funds you have saved for your future, what are you going to do yourself when your worries came facts, this is no country to be walking past a bank and not being able to walk in, sure I have bought some medicines in the past and will of course again, but big big spends on in laws hospital stays and operations is a no no no (if hospitals or doctors see who is doing the paying, then be sure they will try to suck you dry)my wife and I have had several discussions/arguments about this, but as the years go by and she begins to see the things that us foreigners see and feel that is different in our cultures she too comments now on things before I do.

    I guess what im saying in this tough tough time for you, not being so free with your money is not necessarily being greedy, I think that you are being very practical about it.
     
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