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my past? that's still up for review
my present? my specialty is keeping busy doing nothing...

 

You make a lot of wonderful and useful points in your post about sugar in the diet. Those who are obese, diabetic or prediabetic would do well to read and learn from your post.
What's also true is that any form of carbohydrates are also converted to glucose in the blood - essentially having the same effect as sugar.
Breads, pasta, rice and other grains, fruits, and root veges like beets and potatoes (white or sweet) are all carbohydrate-heavy - and so have a very similar effect on obesity and insulin resistance.
I gained 40 lbs in the last year, and was diagnosed in August 2020 with diabetes at the Ace Doctors Hospital. Of course, they prescribed a maintenance drug - Metformin - to lower my insulin levels. But I have always rejected the idea of taking foreign chemicals into my body on an ongoing basis. I researched diabetes and obesity extensively, and have been able to reverse diabetes and drop 30 lbs. in the 3-1/2 months since my diabetes diagnosis. And dropped 5 inches from my waistline.

• Those heavy 40 liter drinking water bottles we lug around? I have dropped 3/4 the weight of one of those. I hike a lot around Valencia and Negros Oriental, I would hire a porter rather than carry a backpack that heavy.

It was not terribly difficult to achieve those results.
For those who are interested in how that occurred I've written about it in this article How to Reverse Diabetes and Lose Belly Fat in 60 Days.
Losing weight and belly fat, improving organ function, and reversing insulin resistance add lifestyle quality and years to our lives. We've worked so hard throughout our lives to find ourselves in this wonderful place. Let's enjoy it more every day, and live longer.

 

Yes I believe this is due to the old Hammer horror movies that use to be shown here a lot and at the end it would say filmed in Pinewood Studios, England.

When my filipina ex-wife first slept with me... I found out that she stayed awake the first 2 nights as she (older generation) thought as I was from England I must be a vampire! After 2 nights of my not sticking my fangs into her neck she finally accepted I wasn't

 

Holy Cow! You guys can be funny!

My best friend became my life partner and he was quite a bit older than me when we married.

We spent 29 years together and he was the best mate ever.

Although I had wished from time to time that we were closer in age, it was a wish for us to have more good years together.

Looking back, I've no regrets as we had a wonderful relationship. I'd rather have had 10 wonderful years than 40 years of hell.

I know some women/men may only be looking for that "Sugar Daddy/Momma" thing, but my mate wasn't one of those (nor was I) -- and I know we chose each other for all the good and life-long reasons.

I guess it all depends on what life presents to you, what you value, and all the rest of it. But I think it's possible to have a good relationship with a mate that is older/younger than you.

V/R,
nwlivewire

 

As a child I was fortunate to be the youngest of four and the only boy. While I grew up my sister one by one left home.
However as their clothes were dresses I never had to wear the hand-me downs!
Climbing trees, fishing in the ditches with a net and jam jar catching tiddlers, my childhood was a happy one.
My schooling was basic but I managed to survive the authoriterian teachers and during my teenage years I never knew what it was like not to have employment.
In my twenty's my first marriage gave me the responsibility I needed to settle down and life has always been a learning curve.
Growing up in the 50/60's was the best time in my life and the memories remain.

 

I don't think anything in the Philippines regarding immigration (or most other official things requiring paperwork) needs to be made more complicated than it already is.
As the old saying goes be careful what you wish for....

 

Here, Here.

Requiring bank statements and police background checks for a visa extension would greatly reduce the number of social rejects. Many countries require this after about 3 or 4 months.

 

So you are saying, as I have read many times elsewhere, that it is the family who raise you that bears more value than those who created you?

If I am not in error of understanding you had a incredible adoptive family, I can compare that with being born into a family of 5 children and having a physically and mentally abusive father. Our ages (me and siblings) now total over 370 years but we still all suffer the scars, as did my mother from age 19 to her death at 73. Nothing beats a caring family, whoever the parents are.

 

There is usually no single way, but it depends on the level of anxiety. Someone facing an exam or a job interview usually suffers anxiety and that is NORMAL IN THE CIRCUMSTANCES. That would tend to fade away and the person does not think about it again. BUT, if the person experiences anxiety in many other situations, especially ones where most people do not, then that person has learned something that is normal (i.e. low-level anxiety in certain situations IS normal) but is applying it in a way that is not helpful. The person just has WRONG LEARNING - that person is not crazy. And there is no point listening to people who say "just pull yourself together" as those people would not say that to a person with a broken arm and so they have stigmatised psychological issues - their opinion on the subject is ill-informed thus pointless and worthless.

The person with this wrong learning needs to correct it. The first step would be to learn how to relax (as relaxation is the opposite of anxiety) and there is much on the internet about that. IMO the process should initially be one of muscle relaxation and when that is achieved to bring in correct breathing (especially to stop chest breathing and learn to replace it with abdominal breathing) and then visualisations (being able to imagine a scene where the person feels very happy and relaxed) and mindfulness (focusing on the moment to stop distracting thoughts). This can then be combined with anchoring (where just pressing the forefinger and thumb together becomes associated with relaxation) and that can then be used in stressful situations (best if it can be done during the apprehensive stage and before the anxiety becomes panic).

The process of facing anxieties is something a person would then do - but I am not a fan of strong exposure therapy (this is called 'flooding' and is where the person is persuaded to face the anxieties full on) but of a more gradual approach. IMO, it is better to take months to start to feel better than to rush it and go backwards.

All of this requires effort - but then, sportspersons work long hours day after day, week after week, month after month in gruelling repetitive exercises and sometimes just to win a medal. A person with a physical disability may have to carry out daily exercises, sometimes painfully, and has to accept it and do the best possible. So a person with wrong learning may need to put much effort into correcting it (even if not 100% then any progress is a success) and there are books available and resources on the internet. As with any learning system, there are different approaches and it is best to read about them and find what most suits the individual - IMO, that means being comfortable with the ideas and pacing it to suit. There is NO magic bullet (there rarely is for anything) and trying to find it just postpones facing the situation and correcting the wrong learning. Facing anything that causes suffering is not easy, but the long-term rewards are usually worth it.

One of the big factors is to learn to ACCEPT the feelings - they were not asked for but they exist - and not fight them. Acceptance is really the key but usually needs a bit of effort initially to minimise some of the more distressing aspects of anxiety conditions.

Medications can be used in small amounts to help with the initial stages but this requires medical advice and prescription - over-use is not only dangerous but is just avoiding making the effort as described above and is a bit like a parent doing a child's homework (it solves the problem but the child learns nothing).