⌛ American detained for oral defamation

I don't think so that the wife who stay at home, care the children the whole family will be regarded as low status, and also not a parasites.It depends, if the income of husband cannot afford to feed the wife and children the wife of course will have to work.Some husbands have enough income, then they decided to plan who will care and prepare the small children going to school in the morning and getting them from school and also some couples wants that they have a proper family atmosphere.You think it's nice, that the kids will make breakfast themselves because parents went away 5 or 6 am to work , or some couple even only see each other 2 or 3 hours in 1 day because when husband come home from work ,children from school ,the wife will also going for work, and how about the kids? the father is tired from work (no time for the children) the kids felt left alone.The whole family have no time to each others.I cannot considered it as a real family.Money is not everything.I came from a family that my father and mother are working so hard that they dont have time for us 3 kids and even to each other no time, then they break up until now when I remember all the situations, I don't feel good it's really a catastrophe. If possible I dont like to repeat that to my own children or family.

But as I said to choose that situation now that wife will stay as housewife can only be done for those husbands who have high income.Many here in my place are still practicing that.

 

Yank in a mess

Actually I know David very well.
I also know well his motivation.
This time he has bitten off more of the underbelly of the snake in the grass than even he appreciates.

 

Property rights

You need to read the law on the rights of Filipino wives

 

American detained for oral defamation

As far as I know this guy is infamous in Dumaguete. Filipino people don't like to deal with him, even the banks people when they hear the name Dave Williams, it is like eerie to them..anyway that's what relatives told me. Name calling comes natural in America, you hear it anywhere, but it is not acceptable by Filipinos. You could hardly hear Filipions call names. Lesson learned... Gie

 

I could easily write a book on this, and in fact I am... but not here.
It's admirable to take the role of expat advocate, god knows there are so many naive and uninformed expats coming here to the Philippines.

I am new, only under two years, but wise already to the many scams and mis dealings.

Aside from those things, foreign visitors would be well advised to learn a little about the culture into which they will thrust themselves. This is Asia, confrontation and aggression is not the accepted mode here. Even asking pointed questions is considered impolite. More importantly, for a foreign visitor to the Philippines, there is a hyper sensitivity to criticism.
Here, as in China, Japan, and other Asian Cultures, if you cause a person to lose face, there can be grave consequences. You have to allow an avenue of acceptable retreat in any disagreement situation.

The problem is many western foreign visitors refuse to acknowledge cultural differences. (or are simply ignorant). You can not force the issue because you assume you are better educated or smarter (you are not always). The deck is always stacked in favor of Filipino natives. This runs from police, to the judicial system and everything in between.
Buying land is indeed dangerous if you are not extremely careful. Not to say it can't be done with reasonable assurity. But as in all things filipino, boundaries, are often assumed, not surveyed, if the are surveyed, they are not always registered. And in worse case scenarios, the deeds are bogus.

The husband wife relationship aspect is a separate issue well refrenced in the previous posts.

 

I'm sorry, I do feel sorry for the sap, and yet, he also should have known better. In this day and age, there is little excuse for this to continue happening. so the only reasonable explanation might be that the people gamble on thinking that the marriage is safe and will last forever and little brain is thinking for them in some instances. so, while I feel sorry for the guy and others that fall into the same situation, it is that I feel sorry for all their emotional loss, but the financial loss, so what, they should know better. Thank goodness not all of us have to worry about such things.

 

It's nice to know im not the only person who feels the way I do


Southerndon

 

I knew David Williams before most of you knew where Dgte even was.

I haven't though, kept abreast of his latest endeavors. So I wouldn't be able to accurately comment on the negative comments posted about him here.

I know he had a judge disbarred..which can be dangerous no matter where you are at.

He's a character for sure, and if his wife knew what I knew about him, she'd be shocked. He used to pass along tons of x stories to me.

But anyway, he does contribute to the expats a lot regarding buying real estate in PI on his Yahoo Group.

If nothing else, you have to hand him that.

Yes, be careful whose feathers you ruffle in ANY foreign country !

 

Anybody foreigner that thinks he's going to run a game on Philippinos, using their own court system, is going to step on his own root sooner or later.

Karma's a MF.

 

land ahoy!

Oh yeah. Here are my two cents about land acquisitions here in the Pinas, specifically Negros Oriental. Being a local unwilling victim at least twice, here are some pointers that I've learned along the way of acquiring land. Ask for a photocopy of the title or at least for some numerical info: specific location/address of property, lot number, title number--these are great starts. Then hang up the conversation for a while. Go yourself or send a reliable friend to the Register of Deeds and check the validity of your data. If they exist, well, there's one more thing: check the back of the title for possible notations and annotations on mortgages and such other binds. having said these, you might find yourself in a better and stronger position to pursue or not pursue. There are those who sell without a proper title--know what, no matter how nice one can be, just say NO DEAL. I made a mistake or should I say I was a victim of fraudulent approach by a FRIEND in dire need of money. I bought her property due to the tug in my heart having heard about her plight and all...only to discover that the property, although titled, was mortgaged. It took over three years to get the whole process done and still had to spend for coverage of the mortgage. Then there are those who sell other people's properties--ha! BE WARY. This can be a scary experience worth several nightmares. When selling or leasing out a property, one needs to be honest: the buyer must ask even the most daring questions like "Is this land under disputes? Is it titled? etc." the vendor should be appreciative of these questions and if not, then be wary.