⌛ Generally Pissed Off (sentiments of the leaking bladder)

Hey guys, do any of you know a traffic aid woman that sometimes posts at the street in front of Hibbard Hall in Silliman University and sometimes near DGTech? I've gotten a ROXAS as a name but I'm not really sure. Anyway, I really think this big-guy/lady act that some of these aids (especially this one) display should stop. I don't think she's even human. I don't want to go into details about this one because I still have respect for people in general. Heck, I'm even one. How can she be so inconsiderate, I mean--why would she let me take the long road around the bay area (Lo-oc By-pass) when my destination is only about a few meters away from where I was parked. She came towards my vehicle, in all stick-figure glory (I'm sorry, I just can't help it), acting like a landlady collecting overdue rent. And worse, she told me I was a mere student, in a very fast flapping mouth. EXCUSE ME. I've go two degrees under the belt and still going. I'm also a teacher. And she's just a mere TRAFFIC AID (there I go again). But even so, just because one is just a student (of which, I'm half) that does not mean she can treat him/her that way. What was the problem anyway? I mean, I know it's one way street but we could've resolved it if she would've used her noggin' and her humanity once in a while. And besides, that's Silliman compound. It is understood that the once going against traffic rules (one-way street) in the compound means that person either has to park somewhere or has classes somewhere in the campus. And another thing, she remarked that I am just like my father. Whoah, now that's going way too personal (see what I mean). Now it's only right I get personal as well. What did she meant by that? What's with her tone? She's implying my father's a sinner, that's what. Admittedly, my father had run-ins with her before, regarding taking u-turns on a one-way street. What's the deal? He only wanted to park at the other side. Did she have to ask him to take the whole Dumaguete just so he could park in Dunkin' Donuts. Oh pisshhaaaa!
I've taken feministic ideology as one of my lessons in MA Class and that's why I have high regards with women taking on manly jobs. But that does not mean (this one in particular) to go overboard and be like a maniac. And I don't get why she posts herself on the sidewalk with her hands on her waste like a MATRONA. Does she expect anyone to get intimidated by that stance? (if you call it that) I've heard many pedicab drivers are also pissed off by her and it's so unfortunate that she picked on me, this time. I'm not usually the violent type. I use my intellect to convey my thoughts. And besides, a little revenge wouldn't hurt. It feels good, I admit.
I am sure I'm not the only one being lambasted by these--well bastards. I am taking a vantage point here especially when the helmet, gloves, jacket, shoes policy of motorcycle drivers were taken up front. Thank God the governor lost his steam and junked that policy. I couldn't help myself but give a wry smile when I heard about it. Ok--perhaps I didn't just smile but I laughed my as* off. I've also come to notice that some of the students are being picked on especially by these quote end quote civil guards of the roads. Now, is it just me are we beginning to feel the unlove, so to speak. Why would they shout anyway? Geez, could they behave more civilized rather than a bunch of idiots. (This statement pertains to those who know they're abusing. There are good TRAFFIC AIDS out there and I'm friends with some of them. I praise you my friends for preserving my dignity.)
I know some of you have distressing tales like these and it would be good if we could post them. So that when we've read these statements, we'd already have a framework on how some of these people behave in work and, ultimately, avoid them if possible. Courage does not draw blood but draw sheer strength in times of turmoil. There are a lot of people like this particular person (I said person and not woman, because that's generalizing). I've met abusive tellers, co-workers, classmates and the like and it should be clear that we have the right to air these sentiments wherever we feel like it. And it's good therapy as well, to let some steam off. So post them, I'd really like to read them and maybe we can lick our wounds together, so to speak. Remember, there's strength in numbers. Well--there's also misery loving company--but hey the tone's on a positive note.
Kudos to all Dumaguetenos. I can't get enough of this place, there's nothing quite like it. Trust me, I've lived here all my life (irony is an art, by the way). Let's keep it a city of gentle people as it should be and not a city of angry mongrels.

 

Not taking sides here, but possible reasons for her behaviour:

1) Maybe she was thirsty and hungry at that time? Needed a cold one :D
2) Maybe she had PMS? :o
3) Maybe she hates the job but that's what she's got?
4) She has a miserable life and wants to give others a hard time too?
Or
5) She's jealous because you're cute? heheh...joke lang

Whatever the reason/s is no excuse for her to behave like that especially if all the time. Maybe she would be happier selling banana-Q :D

 

maybe she was waray?

 

or maybe driving the wrong way up a one way street is wrong!!! she's doing a job that she's paid to do....... surely your complaint should be to who ever makes you drive around Dumaguete to get back where you want to go....Don't kill the messenger!
plus if she's doing a job that isn't appreciated by the public, she possibly gets a lot of abuse too

and for sum1 doing "feministic ideology" as one of your lessons in MA Class" your views are to say at least... antiquated!!! btw the glass ceilling is cracking and women have burnt there bras, well perhaps everywhere but here, if that's what there teaching you about "manly jobs"?????

 

endymion_dave
nice piece of writing, traffic annoyances has to be the dullest subject ever but you made it interesting

 

As A Matter of Factly

Don't get me wrong when I said feministic ideology...I wasn't particularly pertaining to jobs women can do. Surely Kate Millet on her sexual politics would get pissed as well. It's that using of "what women can do" I think generally what burning the bras mean. Women do not simply want to be called the other, as secondary identifications. So if these points were what you were looking for, then there you go. But doing what men can do is part and parcel of liberating women from the patriarchal shadow they were put into. Even Virginia Woolf admitted that being put as simply as the other is a pervasive ideology and yet she said, knowing the adversary (men) would yield an understanding of why men are generally angry. She further added that if they behave like men (especially angry men), they are really not liberating themselves but actually subjecting to pervasion. So when I mentioned manly jobs, I was speaking in a position where the views of feminism started as a pinhole. Surely, you'd agree with me that that's where it all started. Woolf was even banned from the lawn she intended to write her narratives just because women were simply not allowed. Woolf now then said this wasn't the underlying problem but she equated to the future inequalities women may face. Now this was beside my point on my previous blog. It was that I was only disturbed by the way this particular woman who behaved like an angry person when in fact, I had to put on a very friendly face only to be foiled by her finger pointing. Then if she has the right to be angry and so do I. In fact, everyone has the right. The cycle goes on and on and we forget--what are we suppose to be angry about? Isn't feminism a way of freeing women from the stigma of being secondary? Then is it also a way of liberating women by making them unlike their oppressors? Surely you would agree that women being men is not going to cut it. Besides, I was angry at this particular person not because she was a woman but because she was particularly pissing me off. Now I agree with Simone de Beauvoir about her 'The Second Sex' when she criticized women for being women and it's particularly true. (How many people reacted violently when I presented The Second Sex?) You can look her up if you want to, she's a woman too. I'm saying all of this to you because I just don't want to disappoint or bring a bad name to my University, when in fact, my Prof (a woman) is a great teacher. I wasn't particularly sure that a very adept person like you would reply to this post.
A point of thought though, she was just very personal--that's all. She might be just doing her job but that does not mean we become unable to comprehend or understand what the world really needs. We all strive hard to do what is right and sometimes we do it for all the wrong reasons. I mean, if you were in my place at that time you would see the logic. A few paces was all it takes versus the roundabout I had to take. And I guess she wasn't really all about the giving me instructions, she was just blowing it off because of the revenge that boiled in her blood. Again, I might be wrong though. I stress it once again, I wasn't angry because she was a woman. Then again, there are individuals(note: individuals not women, to avoid being pervasive) who react to this by saying I'm only shedding a green light in the issue. They would say I shouldn't have said it in the first place. It's like saying NO and then knowing what you said no to, making you remember the grip of the real issue. If you get my drift. How else am I going to write it?
Anyway, understandably as a forum poster, my online manuscripts are subject to criticism. It will have a life of its own. With that said, I would like to thank you for your point.

 

right...... you write very well, but statements like "You can look her up if you want to" shows a lack of respect for others intellegence straight away! you presume that people are not as intellegent as you........ quote!!! I've go two degrees under the belt and still going. I'm also a teacher". (the go-got typo is your mistake not mine!!) And "she's just a mere TRAFFIC AID" also shows distaste for someone in a lesser job than yourself, i suggest you think before you speak to someone, maybe your tone starts an arguement, with an air of superiority, for someone less fortunate than you and hasn't spent years at school.

As it happens i stopped reading your reply half way through as it bored the t*ts of me, you should try speaking to people instead of trying to write your final thesis or analyse them into the boxes you think everyone fits into.

DRIVING THE WRONG WAY UP A ONEWAY STREET IS WRONG! ANALYSE THAT!

 

exactly what i expected. did you realize that she told me i was just a mere student also? i'm not a child. i'm not going to be the receiving end of any sh*t people throw at me, not anymore. did she have a right to treat me like that? i expect to be respected as i would've respected her. i would've accepted her reprimands if only she said it like i was human. you speak of oppression and yet you fail to see what oppression really is. and what she did, is oppression. you also presume that i was giving a tone that merely talked of boast. how did you know my tone was such when words do not have sounds? that's is where you are wrong as well.

did you also put into consideration how i was feeling right there and then? and fyi, i never degrade other people unless they degrade me first. think of that. i only did it because i was so. i would never dream of plastering my diploma on someone else's face but i sure would not dream of plastering it on someone's else's @ss as well. ANALYZE THAT. did you really think it was easy for me to get those things, huh? how rude of you!

you felt that i was trying to brag about what i know? what about you trying to tell me that my views were antiquated? if i didn't have the brains as you implicated i did, do you really think i'd be forgiving? if i didn't know better, it would seem you're degrading me as well. but i know better and i know you meant it the good way. but you posted a fiery one, i tell you that. ANALYZE THAT.

you presume too much. but everybody does. it seems intelligence will always be used with you or against you. if it's not too much of it, its the lack thereof. and that's what you are implicating, that i have too much and i boast about it.

and i'm just redeeming myself because, as your previous post did--made me look like my views are narrow and if not, nil. "antiquated". t*ts that.

THE DRIVING as what you have implied was not the issue. I admit it was wrong for me but did the humiliation she made me endure justify that. I DON'T THINK SO, NU-UH. She was putting on a show, good for her. I could give her a reward.

You said THESIS. Now you gave me a thought. I never thought that was one but thank you. That was a relief, I never thought I could write one.

if you presume I'm degrading your intelligence and of others--then I'm only sorry for you. I did not, that was all you. i know how to look back where I came from. if you know you have intelligence, there's no need to become the victim here. i salute you. i did not say you don't have any, just to be clear, i never said that. if this was about the de Beauvoir thing, I only said to look her up because as her criticism suggest: she blames women for being women. I did not want to sound that I was making it up or that was my own view. SHOCKING.

bottom line: i only degrade those who degrade me. forgive me, i'm no angel...but who is. your quote end quote 'antiquated' remark is a primary example of why I was so itching to put a reply. and if i show you what i knew, you became so defensive. what gives?(NOT A QUESTION, BY THE WAY)

ps: For some reason, I'm not angry with the TRAFFIC AID anymore. (geez can't anyone get angry anymore without anyone butting in?) I could admit now that I was wrong for misjudging my actions while driving but sh*t happens. by the way, how sure are you with the set-up about the one way street anyway--you weren't there. perhaps, she really does get a lot of abuse. this really wasn't about the issue at hand now. i realize i was just angry as she was and i wish it never happened. but sh*t happens. i was just expressing my leaky bladder. but i guess there are others who are angry now. (SAYING THAT WITH MY HANDS UP--and chuckling)

 

exactly what i expected. did you realize that she told me i was just a mere student also? i'm not a child. i'm not going to be the receiving end of any sh*t people throw at me, not anymore. did she have a right to treat me like that? you speak of oppression and yet you fail to see what oppression really is. and what she did, is oppression. you also presume that i was giving a tone that merely talked of boast. how did you know my tone was such when words do not have sounds? that's is where you are wrong as well.

did you also put into consideration how i was feeling right there and then? and fyi, i never degrade other people unless they degrade me first. think of that. i only did it because i was so. i would never dream of plastering my diploma on someone else's face but i sure would not dream of plastering it on someone's else's @ss as well. ANALYZE THAT. did you really think it was easy for me to get those things, huh? how rude of you!

you felt that i was trying to brag about what i know? what about you trying to tell me that my views were antiquated? if i didn't have the brains as you implicated i did, do you really think i'd be forgiving? if i didn't know better, it would seem you're degrading me as well. but i know better and i know you meant it the good way. but you posted a fiery one, i tell you that. ANALYZE THAT.

you say I presume, look who's talking--I mean, writing. you presume too much as well. but everybody does. it seems intelligence will always be used with you or against you. if it's not too much of it, its the lack thereof. and that's what you are implicating, that i have too much and i boast about it.

and i'm just redeeming myself because, as your previous post did--made me look like my views are narrow and if not, nil. "antiquated". see what i mean about presumptions, i'm doing it as well right now. t*ts (not my word but yours) that.

THE DRIVING as what you have implied was not the issue. I admit it was wrong for me but did the humiliation she made me endure justify that. I DON'T THINK SO, NU-UH. She was putting on a show, good for her. I could give her an award.

You said THESIS. Now you gave me a thought. I never thought that was one but thank you. That was a relief, I never thought I could write one.

if you presume I'm degrading your intelligence and of others--then I'm only sorry for you. I did not, that was all you. i know how to look back where I came from. if you know you have intelligence, there's no need to become the victim here. i salute you. i did not say you don't have any, just to be clear, i never said that. if this was about the de Beauvoir thing, I only said to look her up because as her criticism suggest: she blames women for being women. I did not want to sound that I was making it up or that was my own view. SHOCKING.

bottom line: i only degrade those who degrade me. forgive me, i'm no angel...but who is. your quote end quote 'antiquated' remark is a primary example why i'm so itching to write a reply almost immediately. and when i showed you what i knew, you became so defensive. and what's worse you presume i was showing off (showing off once in a while is liberating sometimes) what gives?(NOT A QUESTION, BY THE WAY)

ps: For some reason, I'm not angry with the TRAFFIC AID anymore. (geez can't anyone get angry anymore without anyone butting in?) I could admit now that I was wrong for misjudging my actions while driving but sh*t happens. I guess you know very well the situation about the one way street I was in, but were you actually there? Because you sound like you were.

this really wasn't about the issue at hand now. i realize i was just angry as she was and i wish it never happened. i wish i had taken the other way but sh*t happens. i was just expressing my leaky bladder. but i guess there are others who are angry now. (SAYING THAT WITH MY HANDS UP--and chuckling)

 

thank you SHIBA for your kind post, especially number 5--naks he he he. But seriously, I didn't expect some people would react so violently with my post. This one though, is very light, friendly and casual--it takes my stress and my anger away.

Thank you thank you thank you thank you.