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Discussion in '☋ Expat Section ☋' started by ViperACR, Nov 17, 2009.

  1. ViperACR

    ViperACR DI Member

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    Does every expat in town have to monopolize conversations?

    It seems like at least 80% do. Ask someone what time it is, he’ll tell you how a clock works…!

    God forbid I start a topic and stop to take a breath, because 9 times out of 10 the other guy will jump right in and take the whole thing over.

    Jesus H Christ

    Do the other guy a favor and try listening without feeling the need to butt in with your 2 cents worth?

    If all the so called expat experts on everything here would just clam up once in a while, life would be better.



    You know who you are.
     
  2. Rhoody

    Rhoody DI Forum Luminary

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    well, if everybody would just answer 9:36 am you would do better w/ looking at a wristwatch.

    The purpose of a discussion board is to discuss, say opinions and give interested parties the options to make their own judgment, seeing several different statements.

    Looking at about 10 other Philippine related boards DI is one of the calmest and that by far.

    The best topics to talk in public without anybody takes over are "girls" and "hangouts", as 95% of the Duma Expats are not allowed to talk about the one and have no idea about the other as they do not go out for several reasons and if, to max. 2 places.

    So you can be the "topic-leader" and can throw all your cents in :smile:
     
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    barramac DI Member

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    i read your first line and wanted to change topic

    i will get back to u when i read the rest of your post
     
  4. Teacher

    Teacher DI Senior Member Showcase Reviewer

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    Talkative expats

    I am not really sure if you are being fare to excessively talkative expats. It is not easy living in a foreign country for some people without their comforts of home are stressed and talking helps release there stress level. Maybe just seeing someone they don’t have to explain every word that comes out of their mouth too is more joy than they can contain and the mouth runs amuck. But this is just how I see it.
     
  5. Lukester

    Lukester DI Junior Member

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    I couldn't agree with you more. It seems people just have to tell you more than you asked for and usually it is all about themselves. Most of the sentences start with "I . . . ". I feel like saying, "Tell someone who gives a ****." or "Did I ask you to tell me all of that?"

    I've always been told that God gave us too ears and one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as talk.

    I am not referring to discussion on this board, but rather face to face conversations that go on and on with each party saying "I this" and "I that" and no one is really listening or caring what is said by anyone. Where is the art of conversation?

    As far as conversations about girls, well I always held true that those who talk about it the most, do it the least.

    Where is good judgment and common sense when speaking about the feminine sex? My GF recently was asked which sexual positions she prefers with me. This Australian, who hangs around McDonalds, was clever enough to ask that question will I was ordering ice cream out of ear shot. Where is the decency and gentleman like behavior around here?
     
  6. Rhoody

    Rhoody DI Forum Luminary

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    well, your post is a kind of self-explaining...

    You mention in just one small paragraph the words Australian, Behavior, Mc Donalds, decency and Gentleman.... however that should work out...
     
  7. barramac

    barramac DI Member

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    you proved your point with the opening word of your first 3 sentences. nice parody
     
  8. jellyfish

    jellyfish DI Forum Patron

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    :smile: Baramac, exactly the same thought when reading the 1th of his 3 sentences.
    On purpose I left out the normal starting words : ,,,I did have ...:wink:

    But honestly, I don't mind at all (you see:.....also again.... "I") when people give their opinions as long as it's either:
    -to the point (on topic),
    -funny,
    -brilliantly stupid (which is mostly quite funny :D) or
    -a 'deviation from the normal standard' by an often very helpful and informative member.

    Thanks God we are all different.
    But luckily he gave us all only 1 mouth.
     
  9. bikerdave

    bikerdave DI Senior Member

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    Yes one mouth and two hands "thats my drinking problem"
     
  10. Tom2bad68

    Tom2bad68 DI Forum Adept

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    I'm not sure this behavior is limited to expats. I'm currently still in Kansas (no I have not seen Dorothy for a while although I tried to name our dog Toto till my wife explained which body part that was in Visaya) and my parents are living with us.

    20 years ago you could not get 2 words out of my dad....now it seems you can't get him to stop talking...usually about some bodily function that I am really not interested in...and in front of some attractive young waitress or store clerk. At times is is quite funny and other times a bit embarrassing when he decides to "over share" about my or my wife.

    The whole clan including my parents will eventually move there so you will get the opportunity to experience it first hand...:-)
     
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