⌛ The loving inlaws--

Hello again. This time I would like to ask for some advice. Me and my wife built a house in a town some distanse north of DGTE. About 22 years ago. It was a good deal, the lot was free, given by wifes parents. It is about 400 square m.

So far so good. After about 15 yrs. ago one of wifes sister and family built a small house in our backyard. I was surprized indeed, because we were abroad at the time, and was not told about it. I was rather not happy
But Wifes sister told me, it's only a temporary house. it will be demolished as soon as we find a nice lot nearby. That was 15 yrs ago. Then 10 years ago wifes uncle did build another house in front of us inside our?? Lot. Another surprice indeed. By now both houses are still fully occupied.
Brother in law even started raising fighting cocks outside our bedroom windows.:( And lately even a few pigs.

Any suggestions what i can do? Only something legal please.

 

Hello Viking,

You have 2 legal choices.... 1. DO NOTHING. 2. MOVE AWAY.
Sad story but not uncommon in Philippines.

Cheers,
Ron

 

Sell your house

 

Find a nice lot some distance SOUTH of Dumaguete, and start over! Anything you try to do to change the current situation on that lot is going to backfire horribly.

Larry

 

Why did you wait 15 respectively 10 Years to think about the Problem, I can only give you the advice to move away at least to an other Island...

 

First is the lot is titled and you have the deed and have paid the taxes etc you may be able to do something. If you intend to get the loving family to move be prepared to pay the the construction of their new homes etc.

If the gift did not include the title then you may want to consider building somewhere else.

 

Hmm. If you're not able to see the obvious solution without outside help, then nothing we might suggest will be of much value.

 

fallenviking, I guess the only positive from this would be lessons learned that would help others in the future avoid that sort of rat trap. A way of protection is to have an attorney write up a prenuptial agreement and have it notarized with statements identifying one from bad things happening. Not sure what to suggest to you now other than to take a firm position for what you want to see happen and pursue it with vigor. Good luck.

 

Viking, one of the first things I was told on this site when I came here to live one year ago, is something that I have never forgot.
"The best in-laws (and family) live on a different island". How very true.
And, the other one was "remember that loan and give mean the same thing here". Again, how very true.
When you live in the same community with all of the wife's relatives, there is never a month that goes by that some relative doesnt show up and "needs" something. This month it was 5000 pesos to buy a pig and food for the fiesta.
Sad but true, it has all been said above.....move, and start over again.
And I wish you the best of luck.

 

LOL...prenup to protect a foreigner in the Philippines....you can wipe your backside with it to get some use...All the wife has to do is give a local judge a few pesos and three pigs and the prenup is null and void...you can appeal of course...but if she comes up with more pigs for the next judge...you're buggered. Might get some justice in the Supreme Court....but it'll cost....

To the OP...move to Vietnam....otherwise they've got you pegged as a soft touch and they will find you...