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My wife is 52 and I'm 69 =121 been married 18 wonderful years, works for us congratulations to all the happy couples out there.

 

Hi Guys. He is 51 and i'm 24. My husband would like to thank Bebasguy, Ronv8917, Kojak and Pato for making him feel better about our 27¾ year age diff.

After marrying him i told all my friends to marry men at least 20 years older.
The age gap can be a great advantage, i sometimes call my hubby "my walking encyclopedia". He has introduced me to many things from "before my time" like many great songs from the past, and even old TV shows (i love "Green Acres").
The one thing that binds us together, beyond all time factors, is our mutual Christian faith which brought us together.

My husband strongly believes that it is natural for men to be significantly older than their wives, not only that, it is the created order.
Ten years would be a good starting point.
There is even scientific, socialogical reasoning for it.
Women mature quicker than men, psychologically, emotionally and physically. A woman is at her prime at least 10 years earlier than a man.

Statistically it works.
It is only in western countries, where it is uncommon for men to be significantly older, that marriage failure rates are about 50%.
With older man and younger woman, comes a greater the success rate.

 

Wow Prenilie, what great insight! 26 years between me and my great wife (52 years old for me), after 14 years together I couldn't think about anything better. It sounds like you and you husband will have a very good time together.
Ron

 

Likewise,
Nice to read your point of view Prenilie.
So pleased that it works for you and your Husband, here in UK a lot of people still frown on an older man marrying a younger Lady.
I wish you continued happiness God Bless.....JB

 

WHEW..... FIRST I must commend you on your EXCELLENT command of the English language.....second I think America is even worse off in divorce....closer to 62%

I agree TOTALLY with your accessment.....I love America but we are bound up in a lot of stupid prejudices.... age difference in married couples is just one

 

How we happenned

G'day, this is Prenilie's husband at the keyboard, at home in Victor Harbor, South Australia.
Prenilie's above average English gramma, spelling and vocab, was one of the many great qualities that attracted me to her (@ Kojak i am still coaching her English, i married a perfectionista).

We met, virtually, on July 3rd 2008 at 7:25pm (Aust CST) in chatroom 4 of Yahoo Christian Chat.
Prenilie is the younger of 2 daughters of a farmer from Mabinay, but was living with rellies in Marilao, Bulacan.
Neither of us were there seeking romance, just fellowship.
Now i had hung out in YCC for about 10 yrs and in that time many Filipinas had messaged me in the past. They were all after one thing, a foreign hubby and i was not in the least bit interested in a foreign wife.

Prenilie was different, she wasn't "hunting", so i felt safe to chat to her (fool:p).
She was looking for Christian music to download, so i helped her (i'm a googlemeister). On the webcam she looked about 15yo and i never imagined anything more than friendship, until, several weeks into our friendship, she asked me "what is our status?". Caught off guard, all i could say was "Friends with potential" lol

It was when she got a Job in SM Marilao (Bulacan) and her shifts (9:30am-6:30pm, or, 12:30-9:30pm) made it hard for her to get online before i went to bed. Starting to miss her companionship terribly, i began wrting poems which i texted to her:

This day today,
I must now confess
adoring a,
Cebuan princess.

She is so far,
away from me,
but her sweet smile,
fills me with glee,

At first she was,
suspicious and wary,
but now i know,
how to make her merry,

Have not seen her,
for a while,
could i be now,
out of style?

Absence Makes,
The Heart Grow Fonder,
where is Prenile,
the girl from yonder?
--------------------
Another week,
passes by,
no Prenilie,
tell me why?

A new job,
she has got,
because of this,
I see her not.

I think of her,
each passing day,
missing her so,
I have to say.

Her sweet face,
I long to see,
this Cebu girl,
enchanting me.

Her cute face,
I love admiring
of her looks,
I'm never tiring.

This darling is,
a woman of God
I dream of her,
in the land of nod.

The Holy Spirit,
is like a dove,
could i be now,
falling in Love

To be true to the facts, Prenilie wrote poetry to me 1st (she started it).

One huge advantage that the Filipina has over the western women is:

They realise that ROMANCE is NOT a one way street!

So yes, i eventually realised that i was falling in love, it kind of snuck up on me!
Her English was better than any other Filipino i chatted to on the internet (that includes 2 pastors and an architect), but it was the nature of her faith and the effect that she had on me personally that made me decide that i needed her (It had come to my attention that i had been becoming a better person because of my relationship with Prenilie).

Some time before this point, my Brain, wanting to protect my often broken heart, said, i would be a fool to fall in love with the 1st Filipina that i bothered getting to know. Maybe they were all wonderful (and they generally were). So i created a new Yahoo Chat ID: "seeking_filipina_bride".
Now instead of avoiding them, i cast a net to entice more of them to message me in YCC. In no time, i had created a text file full of the details of many Filipinas. Prenilie started on the top of the list. The names below jostled for position, often changing. One constant remained! Prenilie never lost her position at the top.
The more sweet, beautiful, adorable, lovable Filipinas i chatted to, & C2Ced, the more sure i was that Prenilie was THE ONE 4 me!

We tried to get her a Holiday Visa, but it was turned down on Valentines day! So i flew there (1st time OS), we met at NAIA, Manila March 9th 2009, were married March 20th 2009. Her Spouse Visa was approved July 31st 2009, but we waited for her sister to get married in October 2009 before i flew back, attended sister's wedding in Mabinay. Prenilie arrived in Australia November 1st 2009 just 17 months after meeting online.

Our long term plan is to have 1-2 kids here, buy 2nd house (bigger, as present house is 1BR). Once both houses are owned outright, we will rent both out, move to Negros and live as self funded Christian missionaries (unless God has a better plan, which is often the case).

Ok guys, let curiosity continue.

Whats your storys?


Prenny's Bana

 

Prenny's Bana, Thanks for sharing your meeting and getting together, however will you always be Prenny's Bana ? What I mean is you never gave a name or handle for yourself.
"Curiostiy Only" is the mystery.......JB

 

I am 48. My wife is 49. 9 months older than I. I think I did it backwards. Been married 26 years and have 3 kids. She is 5 foot 0, and I am 6 foot 5. I could use her to set my beer on, but I'm pretty sure she would kick my @ss. lol. Will be back in Dum at the end of May for a few weeks visit. Take care all.

 

I'm 54 and my wife Even is 39. We met through Cherry Blossom magazine and wrote each other for 18 months before meeting in Dumaguete. I proposed on my 2nd visit after getting permission from her Mother! We've been married 11 years now and plan on moving to Dumaguete when I retire in 22 months...