⌛ Live with g/f vs live alone

Boricua, hard to offer advice, given one man's passion is another man's poison. My input would be that for the most part, the girls of Negros are nice girls and very sweet and please try not to hurt any of them. Good luck.

 

Papalo, we don't need another judge on our forum.:(

 

I agree with the others, it seems you KNOW the right thing to do. Looks like you got in a little deep with this lady a little too quickly and may just need to tell her that and get out of this situation before you arrive. Like the others said, live alone for awhile, maybe you can even see this girl, but let her know up front, no strings attached!! It sounds to me that you need some alone time. Good-Luck!!

 

Awwww, such bleeding hearts but at least you are saying it a lot nicer than I would.

 

Dude, you know nothing about me. If you want to express an opinion be it positive or negative then I will read it and take it for what it is worth. However, I don't see the need for you to lower yourself to name calling. You need to check yourself before you go around making stupid comments.

 

PatO I fully understand some of the negative remarks, however there is a lot more to this story that is difficult to cover. To begin with my first wife passed away. The second and third marriages lasted 9 and 7 years respectively. The third marriage was to a filipina who took me for all I had. The fourth was to a Chinese lady. I brought her here on a fiance visa and after we were married for a month, she took off thinking that all she needed was to marry me and that being married to a U.S. Citizen would enable her to get her green card. It took me almost 3 years to track her down and get my divorce.

In the meantime, I met the Thai lady. She has known for the longest time that I wanted to try living in Asia and I had gone so far as to offer moving with her to Thailand. She has some legal issues and her son here and did not want to relocate. I fully understand her position but she has know for the longest time that I want to live in Asia. I made a 5 week trip to the Philippines and got caught up with this young lady. I truly believed that I wanted to try being with her but after giving it a lot of thought, I began to think that maybe this would not be a good idea. It was not my intent to lead her on and hurt her.

As I stated earlier, I had a vasectomy 20 years ago and am unable to have children. I tried to explain the situation but she seems to think that I can just go out and get it reversed. I did not get into this with the intention of trying to hurt her but looking at it long term, I just see her wanting to have children a major problem.

As for the Thai lady, we have talked and she is open to letting me go for a period and get it out of my system. She may meet someone while I am gone but this is something I feel I have to do.

 

i always knew men are luckier in love in these parts, especially if they're foreigners!

i'm with the others who said u should try to communicate to her that u don't intend to get hitched right away. i think people who already get clingy a few days or weeks into the relationship is a red flag. if u have doubts, don't do it and please tell her so before she gets so excited and starts blabbing to all her friends, relatives and neighbors -- hell, the entire community -- and make wedding plans! :D

good luck

 

Live YOUR life

Hy there, congratulations on such a colourful life, disregard the nasty comments. Do what you feel you personaly want. But I agree don;t lead on the filipino girls, my first was a disaster, didn't marry though, but my second, is everything and more i could wish for. Good luck in all you do Mate, cheers Stilo

 

One warning I did not see addressed...
If its easy to get her move into the house just think of how difficult it is to get her OUT!

- Try "Adult Sleepovers" first.

As for Papalo, you can take comfort knowing that poster was the only poster to take a shot at you, but then I assume thats his opinion of all forgieners who walk with ladies he can only dream of.

 

Yep, cut it off before you get in even deeper. I had to do that once. Got engaged one day, called it off the next. She even gave the ring back to me!!