Best Posts in Thread: Dating and Bringing Chaperone

I would like to share some few points on the side of the pinays, It is part of our BS culture that we sometimes requires chaperone during our first date or any kind of date.. whether its for a local or expat, some independent girls with dating experienced might go out on a date alone. But, a young girl of less than 30 years old from a small village needs a chaperone because they tend to be shy of what others would think about her…

About BS culture, Filipinos way of welcoming or gathering is not all conversations we share by food at home or dining outside, that’s also the reason why we have an endless yearly fiesta and etc… And, also 99% of the Filipino working abroad when they come home they spend their 1 month salary for dining outside or having a grand meal at home and shared with everyone.

Spending a few dollars in one time for food and drinks with the girl & her chaperone is not a turn off point, but if she has done it several times and with a battalion of friends then that’s another story.

For all of you young and old longnose guys you have to educate your GF, that your penny is a hard earned and its only enough for both of you not for the whole village!

I remember, I sent my super longnose bana in north Mindanao before getting my first kiss(even if I wasn’t a virgin anymore)… I told him to see my family and of course cousins of cousins and the whole village as well..but, I guess he understood about our shitty culture that I never told..the only thing I told him that I hate my country.

One of the cousin from a Class B (i'm class C) family asked him to bring some ice cream, so what he did is he bought a dirty ice cream from the street vendor which is 3peso per cone.. So my cousin phoned me(there was no facebook yet) of what happened and they have a doubt if my bana can afford me! And also they noticed that for 2 weeks he has only 2 or 3 pairs of clothes! My poor husband was on trial by cousin’s publicity…(of course he has loads of branded clothes and can afford me but he did not show it to me! and to the family and to the whole village.)

After 2 weeks of waiting in my shitty town frustrated… he told me(while I was still abroad) that he’s still willing to get to know me…he said he likes the mango..he likes the sea…and me! So I came! I gave up my job I let him pay my ticket and the rest was history.

 

Tom great pictures and memories. Looks like you got off to a great start on the first date.

I must have not clearly defined position on my first post regarding Chaperones. I am not against chaperones, I am against the mis-use of a chaperone as an economic benefit to the Filipina and her family for a meal, will little to no interest in developing a relationship. In Tom’s case, his future Asawa showed respect and clear thinking on her part in paying for the added family members attendance at the first chaperoned meeting. She was looking to meet “Tom the man” not “Tom the economic savior for the clan.” I appreciate the respect she showed to him and the whole process of trying to get to know someone and build a relationship. It was probably her way of introducing her family to Tom (my speculation). We have all heard you marry the family not just the woman here. She is obviously a very wise woman, which may be why Tom married her.

Congratulations Tom!

 

My 1st Chaperoned Date with my fianace, now Asawa.......Asawa paid :P

 

There's a lot of good advice given above. I will offer only this: Keep in mind that you are the catch. Unless she is a model-quality beauty or belongs to one of the 3 or 4 elite universities. And in both those cases, she will be in metro Manila (where the beautiful and the talented migrate, the New York and L.A. of the Philippines). So if she behaves rudely, and by bringing people uninvited, state your complaint and either send them away, or walk away yourself. There's a good chance she will soon be texting apologies.

 

... but the tick and get lucky or not..... hahahahaha

If you are getting laid by a 19 yr old western girl in your mother country , the cost is probably a lot more than a plane ticket and stay in the Philippines, not to mention the fact that your family has probably shunned you, as you p*ss away their inheritance...lol

 

Well here is a little strange turn up for the books., My 19 year old nephew came up the other night to tell us that after some time, he had given into a Girl that has been pestering him for a date, She is a Filipino of 20 and at the same college. He said Uncle, I like this girl but.......... I am not sure about her, Will you come with me with Anty and meet her and tell me what you Think. We went last night and yes she was OK, Good English, Clean Tidy, Non Smoker little Alcohol intake. Thing that amazed us Both (Azon & I ) was that she seemed to be interrogating us as well as us her. Seems she is from a very well to do family, Doctor (Father) and Dentist( Mother) Now she also brought her Friend that although did not say too much was intent on listening to all that was said. So my posting this is merely to show that this Chaperoning thing can Work Both ways. There we were looking after His Interests and there was the Girl with her Chaperon Doing exactly the same thing. Looking after the Girls Interests

Always two sides to a Coin.

JP

 

Spot on Dave in every way. Not to mention the best Lover I ever had.

 

This is the best post i have read on here maybe because i can i can identify with most of the experiences members have had. I was looking for 2 years before meeting flor and was about to give up when she came along. Been there done that i think i know all the tricks in the book ,hope i never have to go through that bull sh*t again

 

Probably not a lot of 60 yr. old guys getting laid with 19 yr. old western girls; hence, buy the ticket and get lucky.

 

Seriously? If you need to travel thousands of miles to get laid, I just have to say WTF?