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nwlivewire · Feb 11, 2016

Dave & Imp said: ↑

Overall ChMacQueen did an excellent analysis with lots of thought on the subject. Of coarse I have a few additional thoughts.
#3... personally I like a lady who has had a little experience with foreigners particularly with time management. I have been told "you are in the Philippines" it is OK to be late" but I do not buy that concept if we are interfacing with foreigners from a culture that is time sensitive. A lady who has been trained to value time, particularly your time, is much more attractive to me, but I tolerate the lack of time sensitivity, particularly if is is being applied when she is suppose to go home. Those that have learned the financial games from being with a foreigner, I can certainly live without. Remember many of these greedy Filipinas are trained by foreigners to expect EXCESSIVE financial support from foreigners, please do not screw it up for the rest of us by over paying for them. . They know how to play one foreigner against the last foreigner or future foreigner. Many foreigners will in is essence try to buy their time, out bidding each other, whether buying on short term 2 hour hotel time basis, or longer periods of time like two nights.. or a lifetime. These type of woman can be found the world over so why focus just on the Filipinas. Most gold diggers in the Philippines already have a man in the background, usually housed in the local jail that they expect you to support without your knowledge.
#9... yes learned that children are a necessity for most woman to experience, they are all mothers to be. I would also agree that if you can not afford to raise a child through college you should not plan on having one, consequently older ladies may be a wise choice, most "hotties" pass 22 years old already have one child.... each week your are with them they will share another little secret that they have another child in their past... (can I get an "Amen" to this?) In my early months in Dumaguete I saw an older man pushing a stroller in Robinsons Mall. I was applaud because I was not sure he was pushing a child or using the stroller as "walker" to get around, my thought was how arrogant.... he is trying to show everyone his sperm count is still good? Then I became aware that Americans on Social Security can get up to 50% of their monthly checks for their children from birth till they are 18 years old. That is enough money in my personal case that no wife or child would have to work until the child is over 18 years old, even if I was murder climbing out of window by jealous Filipino or for some other reason that my death may occurr. The total amount would come to about many millions of Pesos, and if that could not be invested properly by my widow then I married the wrong lady. Of coarse the money could not support the typical extended family of 50 + people but that would not be my problem, and I doubt I would ever roll over in my grave with whatever happened to the money. I had done the right thing for financially planning, if they, the survivors, chose to screw up their lives financially after I depart, that is their choice... the point is US Expat should be aware of the benefits that they can utilized so as not to leave a wife and child to live in poverty with their new BF and child's stepfather. Please think about you future children, and care for their future if you plan to have a child. (off topic again, but I would love to see the Expats that run off and leave single moms here be responsible for the mom and child after DNA test.... of coarse each situation varies).
#10... know you breaking point, when you will let go of is very important. If you want peace you need to not form attachments with any place or thing, and sometimes that applies to ladies also. Once the lady THINKS you have no choice.. you really do not have any choices left.
Take Care, be safe and act like a gentleman if you can...
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One point with a minor correction for those on SSDI or regular SS....
The law has now changed for the child's age.
The child's benefit in the US is still good through the month the child turns age 18.

BUT, that benefit will end when they graduate from High School.

So, if the child is 18 1/2 years, AND, a letter from the school (on official Letterhead sent to SSA) says the child is still enrolled as a High School student, the child's benefit can continue until the child's graduation month or age 20 - whichever comes first.

If the Mother qualifies for the SSA Mother's benefit, then the Mother's benefit will cut off when the child turns age 16 - period. At age 16, it is assumed that the child is legally old enough to work and go to High School, plus is old enough to help out the family and him/herself.

That's how it's working in the States right now....

nwlivewire

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