Best Posts in Thread: NOT to old to cut the mustard

I see the humor in the article but deep down it just re-enforces the stereotype that wrinkly old 'geezers' should stay in their room or play cribbage all day.

Words like "codgers, old-folks, wrinkly-Romeos, geezers, oldtimers, and the scariest thing in my life" just contribute to the prejudice against retired folk having a life. If this kind of language was used against gays or people of colour the civil liberties people would be out in force but no-one in the first world seems to give a sh*t about retired folk. Thank you Philippines for allowing me to continue having a life.

 

True but you may be hanging out with the wrong people if that's what you hear. There are many very happily married and dating couples who have an age difference who have a health relationship based on love, trust and respect. It's the bar girls and free lancers at why not and similar places who talk like that because they are working girls!

Note: this is not an attack on anyone but a statement of fact from living here and understanding the language so I know what they are saying behind all our backs. There are nice girls who truly love their BF/Spouse irregardless of age and their are working girls who do it for the security and cash.

I edited my reply to use better language and attempt to NOT offend anyone or make it a personal attack.

DaveD

 

Holy Cow! You guys can be funny!

My best friend became my life partner and he was quite a bit older than me when we married.

We spent 29 years together and he was the best mate ever.

Although I had wished from time to time that we were closer in age, it was a wish for us to have more good years together.

Looking back, I've no regrets as we had a wonderful relationship. I'd rather have had 10 wonderful years than 40 years of hell.

I know some women/men may only be looking for that "Sugar Daddy/Momma" thing, but my mate wasn't one of those (nor was I) -- and I know we chose each other for all the good and life-long reasons.

I guess it all depends on what life presents to you, what you value, and all the rest of it. But I think it's possible to have a good relationship with a mate that is older/younger than you.

V/R,
nwlivewire

 

Whatever you gotta believe to get you through the day is alright with me

 

English/American society, teenagers are grossed out.
Philippine society, teenagers are dating seniors.
You will have to judge for yourself if that is nature or nurture because it seems obvious to me that it is a learned behavior and thus a societal issue.

 

Hard to think it is about the money when the guy's retirement is $800/month or less. Then again maybe that is me using my definition of enough to make a relationship possibly "about the money" and not a local's.

 

I wasn't hearing to from bargirls and the such which would have made much more sense. But meeting the occasional older foreigner before who had a young honey on his arm and when the girls get talking it all comes out. Usually is involving not your decent looking 50ish year old but the 60-70+ real fat and ugly by our standards foreigner who is with some 18-19 year old girl. But I did find once the girl hit 20+ the negatively behind his back seemed to drop off considerably and 25+ seemed to be non existent (unless he was just a complete a$$hole and abuser all the time).

But yah, age matters to some extent but not all that much as long as both agree on similar goals. A 20ish some could be happy with a 50-60+ as long as she's accepting that he probably doesn't want kids and if does may very not be around to see them grow up (depending on the age). That seems to be the real catch and as long as she stays fine with that when it applies then all good.

Not looking to offend anyone also but just calling it like I see it. Very few times have I seen an 18-19 year old with an old foreigner and its really about loving him and not his wallet and not talking about a 40 or even 50 year old as the *old guy*.

 

That's the point. Every teenage gets to decide their preference. Trying to impose OUR preferences on other teenagers is societal influence. When just left to choose on their own, its surprising the choices they will make. But since we all judge by our own experiences, personal prejudices run rampant.