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It is a bit of a mystery how such a large percentage of the male half of the population here would choose the homosexual lifestyle, tranny, bakla, gay, whatever. Adding to the mystery is that, given the “high incidence of feminine beauty” in the Islands as first noted by Magellan in his journals as we have been told, why would a guy choose to be gay here? [emoji16]But I am impressed by the tolerance shown to the gay lifestyle whether it be bakla or “tomboy”, which incidentally is a very understandable choice for a woman for the opposite reason :-) But most impressive is that, whatever stripe of sexual deviation, none of them are trying to force a homosexual agenda onto the straight population as they do in the rest of the world. Also, despite the long tradition of tolerance, I believe it is highly unlikely that homosexual marriage would ever be accepted by society here.


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Thank you, Wrye83. You are quite right about that.

 

Think there might be a cultural element here too...Asian cultures have a tradition of a “3rd Gender”. The Hijras of India and Pakistan come to mind.

Gender Identity Disorder is done away with in DSM-V in favour of Gender Dysphoria...a Disorder being the more illness and hence discriminatory label. Dysphoria meaning a marked incongruence between a persons expressed gender and their assigned gender - which is basically socially constructed. Not my job to pathologise in short, I’ll leave that to those with political/religious agendas.

To lighter matters...I haven’t noticed the bayots on the Boulevard. But I’m rarely there after dark anyway. My own personal conclusion is that some ‘pass’ skilfully - whereas others do obvious and sometimes comedic-tragic attempts. Those with Filipina partners here might quiz them about some of the cultural beliefs about bayots here. If we get this thread moved to the controversial section I’d be happy to write about those (Philippine) beliefs. Not for the ‘family’ section of the forum.

 

I've had a lot of experience with gays and trans in the US do to where I lived and some of my social circles that also attracted such thing along with being a supporter of Gay Pride in Minneapolis for years.

In my experience first off one must understand gay and lesbian is one thing and fairly simple to understand. However Trans (Ladyboys) are completely different not even really related but the media connected them to gays and lesbians because it was seen as a sexual / mental disorder. Gays and lesbians its just about what your attracted to, plain and simple.

Trans / ladyboys however when you start digging into it you come up with a wide array of mental issues. Various reasons such as:
1. Females get more attention as children often commented how pretty, cute, sweet, and so forth.
2. Females getting good grades here in the Philippines gets more positive treatment then a boy doing the same.
3. Females are looked at by strangers a lot more and get more attention and even treated to things more.
4. Females get better paying jobs here in the Philippines and just more jobs.
5. Females get an easier time finding housing.
6. Acceptance of trans/ladyboys is huge where almost every Filipino has or has had a ladyboy friend. They as well are considered cleaner, more educated, and better taken care of then your average Filipino guy.
7. Filipina's can be strong willed, demanding, and harsh while Filipino men are very docile and controlled by their women. This means a man who wants to feel stronger can't as a man but what if he was a woman?

When you start looking at young children especially in households with multiple kids of both sexes you can start to see things a bit better. Boys who want to wear a dress and makeup because when their sister does she gets so much attention while he gets a passing *so cute* comment as they move onto is his sister. The girls however may want more freedom and less pressure and boys are often let out to run about and *be boys* while girls are more controlled because she's *just a girl*. This starts the thinking the grass is greener on the other side and *maybe I should have been born a boy or girl instead* thinking. With time that thinking grows and they try it and love the attention. From there they are confused deep down so to make it make sense they come to conclusions they are really not what they are. (standard western country)

This line of thinking has decades of research on it and this is what has been agreed upon many times until trans became such a huge issue in 2010 timeframe and it became hurting their feelings saying they are just mentally ill. The supporters majorly latch onto gays and lesbians acting as if they are pretty much the same but in the LGBT crowd the LGB has wanted nothing to do with the T crowd and I can say that is 100% true being a former supporter and being close friends with the organizers of the Minneapolis Gay Pride march and having many gay friends. I'm sure all of you have seen these issues as well especially with young kids going through the stages of wanting to dress like a boy or a girl while most realize they are what they are and it doesn't matter some don't.

 

Maybe, but I sincerely doubt it. This is not "Some Like It Hot," or "Bosom Buddies" here. These ladyboys are NOT acting a part, but being themselves. Transgender people have the psychological makeup of the gender opposite what their bodies assign to them. Really, it's no act. They are not doing it for financial benefit (get an apartment, a job, etc), although some no doubt are into prostitution to support themselves, as are some men who are masculine...both straight and gay.