Discussion in 'Expat Section' started by PatO, Feb 7, 2018.
Such a shame, my condolences to his friends and family. R.I.P
Girlfriend is selling the furniture any help appreciated.....
*EDIT: Okay strange? Looks like the Facebook Links are not showing up in my Post so will post the Screen Shots;
Looks to be posted the very same day; (#01- 6 February at 09:46 - Bad timing perhaps?)
As the News broke; (#02 - 6 February at 17:42)
It is so sad. I pray peace and comfort for his bereaved family and friends. May he enter God's rest.
Thank you everyone for sharing that information, it helps us to understand what happened. He will be greatly missed. RIP brother.
I know of someone else who is basically in the same condition. This I think happens way too often in the Phils with foreigners. Depression and suicide are very real. He was fortunate to have a few people try and help him but it is hard to reason with a depressed person and unfortunately allot of people suffering from this condition turn to alcohol for relief. So you now have an alcoholic who is masking his depression! It is very difficult to reason with someone who wallows in self pity and walks around in a drunken stupor. Sad situation for sure!
Very true for some who cannot see a way out. I spent decades in an unhappy relationship, my saving grace was her leaving me again giving me opportunity to start making life choices for myself. I do not regret a thing and am thankful that all in my past led me to a much happier place I find myself in today. Even though I suffered from very bad depression myself, I reached out to others, over time and very annoyingly, I found many in the same position as myself did not want to help themselves and many liked the attention they received. That in part was the driving force behind me picking up and moving half way around the world. Best thing I ever did, for me... Watching those people sink made me aware that if I did not do something positive I would end up just like them...
Alcohol I found made my depression worse, alcohol is the LAST thing anyone needs to add to their list of problems, so I swore it off and will now only have a few glasses at most. IF you are depressed, then please, do not drink as it solves nothing! You will only wake up feeling twice as bad as you did prior to opening that bottle.
Anyone here who is in a bad place in their lives, do not be afraid to reach out and simply talk to someone else. There may not be an immediate fix to your problem, but given time and one step at a time, you can climb out of that tunnel of darkness which seems to have no light at the end of the tunnel. I for one am here to simply listen to anyone with a problem. I will not betray you, nor will I mock you if you truly wish to have an ear to listen to your problem. For most, the answer lays in self-help. You CAN do it!
Talk to someone, who knows where it may take you. I know this for a fact with several friends telling me how simply talking turned their lives around until they found that happy place in their lives. Remember;
"Suicide is a Permanent Solution to a Temporary Problem"
The information here by Mr.Pig is right on the mark. I have suffered from both chronic and acute depression as has my mother. My grandfather committed suicide! Make no mistake if someone is actually talking about taking their own life the chances are he/she will follow through with it! Along with depression is anxiety and panic attacks. This man it seems had a deep fear of facing up to his old acquaintances and loss of his job. In order to come to terms with this he turned to alcohol as a remedy. Mr. Pig is so correct, "Alcohol I found made my depression worse, alcohol is the LAST thing anyone needs to add to their list of problems, so I swore it off and will now only have a few glasses at most. IF you are depressed, then please, do not drink as it solves nothing! You will only wake up feeling twice as bad as you did prior to opening that bottle."
Why? Because alcohol and many drugs too only mask the underlying problem! How do you turn a person's thinking around from seeing his glass is half empty to thinking his glass is half full?
If anyone is interested in learning more please see this video:
VERY Informative! You also touched on Anxiety. THAT is a b*stard of a thing to realise you have! I never for a minute realised I was suffering from anxiety (still do to a degree and cannot buy the medication here) as it is not something you would associate along with depression. I ended up taking the Bull by the horns and flew to the Philippines to meet my Wife for the first time. Anyone who understands Anxiety will know just how big a deal that was! I am much more positive than I once was, but it has been a long road to get to where I am today. Anxiety is one HELL of a trip if you do not realise or understand it or how it affects you. But once you make the decision to make certain changes in your life, then you can learn to better deal with it, to a degree at least, where it does not control your every waking minute. Most like myself do not even realise that they are suffering from it and put it down to just having depression. Totally different thing!
GREAT VIDEO - Thanks!
Most people are not noticing the warning signals or hints ahead of a potential suicide. Many suicides could be prevented if the signs are recognized and getting professional help as fast as possible.
Depression is a perfidious sickness. Quite many people with depressions are not knowing themselves that they have it. A good medicine is indeed a good talk with another person (the best persons are professionals like a priests, doctors, pastors, psychiaters and so on) to unload the pressure.