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Can I bring my Dad with me ?

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  1. robcameron321@gmail.com

    robcameron321@gmail.com DI Junior Member

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    I tried to post this already but I do not think it went through so I am trying again..I got a message saying I was not authorized? I apologize if this causes any confusion..
    I am all set to leave in September and arrive to try Dumaguete as a possible retirement home base. I still have some traveling I want to do.. and scuba diving in Thailand and Bali, etc.. . but I am looking for a home base for at least the first year. For the past four years I have been taking care of my father who is 92 years old and has Alzheimer's Disease. In March I brought him to Denver from Florida to live with my sister as she has been asking for this opportunity to spend time with him and care for him and so with my plans to leave it seemed the ideal solution. The weather in Florida is a little better suited to my fathers condition then Denver but the only other sibling I have lives in New York and only visits Florida on Holidays maybe 6 times a year, and would not want to be a caregiver. So we came to Denver and since i did not want to just drop him off and leave I have stayed around to help them all get comfortable together also my niece is getting married the end of August and all the family will e together so September seemed a good date to set my departure. As this time approaches my sister has informed me she cannot deal with my father living at her home and is going to put him in an assisted living facility when I leave. While I understand her decision it pains me to think of my Dad living in a facility and spending most of his time lost, confused and among strangers who will most likely look at caring for him as a burden. So my question is... does anyone think it would be possible for me to bring him with me and have some live-in help there to help with his care. I know the help is readily available but my concern is the government regulations on retirees...? he is 92 and needs help to walk or move any distance over a few hundred yards.. and as I said he has Alzheimer's and so is not mentally able to care for himself or answer questions about himself. He would be totally dependent on me as if I was traveling with a 3 year old child. I was not planning on a permanent visa status right away but if that would make a difference I could arrange for that for him and for me if needed.. the financial aspect is not an issue.. I am only concerned with the visa issues etc.. ? if anyone can answer any of this I would be very grateful...? thanks
     
  2. PatO

    PatO DI Forum Luminary Highly Rated Poster Showcase Reviewer Veteran Marines

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    Rob, I admire you for taking on the responsibility of your father. May I suggest you read up on retiring in the Philippine and visas for the Philippines. In addition to the tourist visa, there are two types of permanent visas: retirement visa (good info on the internet) and quota visas. Shadow (Larry) has a business helping with visas and is very knowledgeable and can help you. I have a quota visa I applied for in 2009 and issued Jan 2010. At that time, only 50 a year were awarded for U.S. applicants and you had to "buy" your way into the 50 queue to assure you get one. So I suggest you contact Shadow on the forum. Good luck.
     
  3. TheDude

    TheDude DI Forum Patron Highly Rated Poster

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    Not only would I not bring anyone here at that advanced age but I don't even see the Philippines as a good retirement location.

    The Philippines is poor. The economy is horrible. The cost of living ends up coming in relatively lower for many (not everyone for sure) but you get what you pay for. At a certain basic level, the Philippines is great. Once you get to more advanced needs out of society, then you start to feel the pinch. Health care is a major item here.

    The Philippines seems to be great for retirees who are in that long stretch between retirement and still decent health. Once things start breaking down, this isn't the best place. I have had a couple of friends recently move back to the U.S. because it was time.

    There may be other areas in the Philippines or in S.E. Asia which are okay.
     
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    PatO, When you "bought" your way in was that a "fee"? :cool:

    Rob, I hope your transition is smooth.
    My grandmother had dementia and she didn't even recognize her own children just before she passed.
    There are many caregivers you can get here for a reasonable amount. Just remember your dad may have anger issues.
     
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    I sent you a PM on my visa process. I had a little system hiccup so hope you got it.
     
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    john boy DI Forum Luminary

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    Sorry Guys, it would appear I replied to slightly different posting, on the same subject.....JB
     
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