Best Posts in Thread: DATING A MARRIED FILIPINO WOMEN

Either fish or cut bait.

That is, pay for her annulment, or pound sand.

Yes, I have known guys who lived in the Philippines with married women - AND got away with it. I have also known guys who lived with married women, and the Filipino husband found out about it. Not so good afterward.

 

I don't think "jealousy" is pertinent to this particular issue anyway. If the husband abandoned wife and kids a long time ago and is with one (or several) new fools as his girlfriends, I hardly think he could credibly be jealous of the wife. It's greed and retribution that would be the drivers of his legal complaint.

 

If local laws fail to impart wisdom, here is guideline from ancient times that bears timeless truth across nations and cultures:

"Whoever commits adultery with a woman has no sense...
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... because jealousy arouses a husband's fury. The husband will show no mercy when he takes revenge. No amount of money will change his mind. The largest bribe will not satisfy him." Proverbs 6:32-35 GOD'S WORD® Translation​

As an example, here is a local occurence in 2010: Briton, 28, killed in Philippines by jealous boyfriend of woman he intended to marry | Daily Mail Online

So, in Philippines, yes, it is best to court and/or date only a Filipina singleton, and never a legally-married, a common-law married, an engaged, or a betrothed woman, to keep one's good health.

 

With all the single Pinays in Dumaguete, why would you want to take the chance???

 

If his intent is to just date, that's works, but if he wants to get married he still has the whole annulment ordeal to go through.

 

Good news:
Divorce bill hurdles committee level, moves to plenary

 

I used to think the same way and I was sure that most of my friends and fellow members on this forum would likewise not take the chance. In fact few expats admit that their wife/live in is already married. Perhaps they don't know because I was astounded when my gf let me in on some gossip where she was chatting with a lot of my friend's partners and found many of them were still married to Filipinos. In some cases the Filipinos did not like this arrangement and raised a fuss with "their wife" but I doubt VERY much those ladies told their expat partners about it. They tell their filipina friends and don't expect it will be repeated. I will not mention any names but I sure hope you guys doing this know what you are doing.

EDIT: Think about it. If a filipina is still single after age 30 she is considered an "Old Maid" so if you want to go out with someone who is 30 or older, what is the chance that she is really single? Keeping in mind that there is no divorce here your chances are pretty slim. The trick is getting her to admit it. At least one filipina I know committed bigamy and got away with it for years before it caught up to her. Be careful gentlemen.

 

Best to move on unless you are head over heals, which means you aren't thinking straight anyways. Lots of effort to get this worked out.