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Profiling based on personal experience at its finest. My turn. I find a 30 year old guy from Mississippi hanging out in the Philippines as odd at best. I find a mother putting up with a lot of sh*t to ensure that her child can eat and have a place to live as understandable. It's usually about who holds the power that is the victimizer. Who has the power in this situation? Find that out and you will likely find who the victim is. I don't know who the the victim is here, but if I was in Vegas and had to bet, I know who I would bet on. Does a tough life justify taking advantage of someone....no. Does a good life justify taking advantage of someone...no. Maybe it's a zero sum game, but I really think you have to consider what is driving the behavior. I wonder how many members here have grown up in abject poverty and homeless. How many here would do whatever it takes to help your family?

Don't get me started on the legal system. In my experience it's a total joke, designed for, run by and for the benefit of the rich.

Happy Friday!

 

Can we take it you are sitting on the fence on this one? Seems the best place to be all round until we have not got the full story as with so many things.

 

I was once "told" by a young lady that her sister had beat her because she did not bring home money or food. When I asked about involving the policy to my helper (not involved in this) she told me that it was a family thing and the police would not get involved. Just agreeing, when I foreigner is involved everything changes.

 

As we know Domestic Violence is rampant here but once again, it involves a Foreigner so the "Rules of Engagement" will change

 

At this point we don't have enough info to know. There are filipinas who have flaming tempers and I am sure they could set themselves up to appear abused in order to get what they want. There are also expats who play a very controlling role in their relationship and some may actually be abusive. Which is it? Has the 'victim' already convinced you with her story? Did you ever watch any Philippine TV such as Willy' show where the ladies get money for showing tears and acting like they are so hard done by? It gives some insight into the use of emotion as a manipulation tool.

 

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm Sorry but my suspicions are here already. Set Up?

 

There are heaps of younger expat guys living in Manila so it's not at all odd there.

 

No. I'm not convinced of anything as the whole story isn't contained in the article.

That's why I was asking these questions about the Philippine "justice" system and how it would work in a situation like this.

Seems all of Mother Nature's creatures are manipulative to varying degrees and in various ways. Peacocks strut their feathers and on and on it goes, all the way up to the human level.

Just hope that should the guy be found to be the offender in this, that this is the end of his errant behaviour.

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Agreed, JP. You don't keep someone a prisoner and then let them go on Facebook and tell the world about it. Must be a lot more to the story. But if she has bruises, and they are not self inflicted, and he is the only other person in the house, then he has a lot to answer for. He better have much worse damage to his own body to show he was just restraining her. No other excuse that I can think of.

 

Could be, but if she could not leave the only outside contact could have been through FB. By holding her there was the male trying to denial his actions. Remember a typical a 30 year old male has a lot more emotions and a lot less emotional control, and awareness of the laws that us old timers here. If the guy was beating the girl and holding the girl and her child against their will, then he deserves what he gets. He would probably be in trouble in his native Mississippi if he did the same thing there. Just my thoughts..... no judgement whether he did it or not...