⌛ Happy Poopy!

Hi all I have been visiting this forum on and off since I discovered it in at the beginning of the year 2009. Or was it 2008? I don't really remember. But I spent a lot of time reading threads about the Philippines before coming here. What's up?

Now that I have been living here for a certain amount of time I decided to drop by and say 'hi!'

Oh who am I kidding? I really am here for help, if any of you guys know the laws in this country, I humbly ask for help. Because I don't know any other English speaking expatriates to talk to. Is that alright with you guys?

Should I explain my situation in this thread or should I create a new thread asking for help? :(

 

Lay it on us Cal, we'll set it straight for you.

 

Okay, thanks Manzanita.

I moved to Siquijor 8 months ago to take care of my elderly father who is American. My mother is Filipina. My father is in his 70s and living with Parkinson's. Now he is forgetting simple things like paying his bills.

When I arrived I met my teacher from my old Elementary school. She was now in her 40s + and my father says they are close. She comes to his house to act as his nurse. She told me she was my Aunt and related to my mother on her side of the family. She told me my father used to be strong and stand up straighter. Now his back has collapsed due to osteoporosis and bent in a permanent L shape.

My father would also give my so called "Aunty" his ATM card and so she would get money for him. I asked my mother who lives in the US if this was okay, she confirmed it.

So I thought nothing of it.

Also one night I would like to add, that I heard my father tell her, "I love you." but the woman did not want to love her.

Over the next 8 months she would ask for money to buy my father his medicine when the VA stopped sending him medicine. I would take her with me to Dumaguete. But after 8 months I noticed it costs more to have her around and stopped giving her anything. She cried and said I was a rich mean man child.

In my mind I thought, whatever Aunty. You suck up money from me and him like a freaking vampire. But instead of losing face, I simply said; "All I ask of you is to take care of my father."

SHTF when my mother visited to check up on her house and my father who built it. My sister also arrived, she is pregnant with baby. Her husband is a marine and was sent to Afghanistan though. Feel bad for him though. :(

Now after staying in Manila for 2 weeks, I returned to Siquijor. My mother and sister informed me what they found out. My mother had to tell me that this woman was not my "Aunty". They looked at the record of withdrawals from my father's ATM card.

They confronted my "Aunt" but she simply lied. She said she never withdrew money for my father, she never held his ATM card. She even accused my own mother of stealing from my father. WTF.

I have seen that woman holding my father ATM card. How can she lie to my family? She is not even family!

She has not returned since the confrontation. But my mother left and my sister stays to take care of my father and make sure he gets what he needs. But my father is stubborn. He calls my sister names and tells her she only needs that woman..

What am I going to do? He continues to text her over and over. He asked her to cut his hair this Saturday but I stopped him last night.

I threatened to have that woman arrested for trespassing on my mothers property.

It broke my heart last night to say what I said to him. But he simply forgets everything me and my sister tell him anyway so why does it matter?

He said, "Well you can't do that!"

I said, "Yes I can. You are only an American citizen. You can't own property in this country. My mother shares the title with you."

He gets angry. Calls me names. Implies that I don't care about him.

If I did not care, I would pack my bags and move somewhere else. But I can't leave him to that woman.

Now that my sister is here and installed air conditioning in his room, he is WAY MORE healthier than he was with my fake aunt. I do not know why I did not see this earlier. I guess I am too stupid to see what goes on around me.

Now that I know these things, I am afraid of hurting that woman when I see her again. I do not know what to do.

I want to move out and get far away from that woman.

Also I want it to be known she seduced a Swedish man into sending her money by Western Union. He stopped doing that and said he was in the hospital. I am too stupid. My sister had to point out that he said that to get rid of the con woman.

Now the con woman is going to wait until my sister leaves and worm her way back into my fathers heart. My father still loves her and sends her messages to her every day.

Just right now, he ran out of load.

I am going to stall getting him a new load. Screw it.

 

Cal, in d' Philippines problems like this come and go.
Think outside the box....can you dig it?

 

Forget about calling the cops. It'd be a complete waste of time.


Since your mom isn't in the picture...



I say:
Let the old guy enjoy his declining years, you greedy man child.

 

Believe in 'barang'? They say it works:D:D

 

Ok ok!

Josephen, Blond moment here, I have to ask it, WHAT! is "Barang"? I won't ask her Indoors, she will laugh at me!

Hope things are well for you?

Jack P.

 

Ask somebody from Siquijor...cal should know, haha...or the mother should know...

 

well, life is not easy at the moment, but i keep on:D:D:D

you back there@monkey-rock?

 

Always wear a smile!

josephen, Chin up and keep smiling, I am sure it will all turn out good in the end.

No Monkeys till Feb/March.

Jack P.