Hello to every one i need your help !!!

Wedding is a big thing in philippines. Couples save up for a year or two to spend for their dream wedding (some). The thing is, with filipino wedding even if some guests are not invited if they know you... They will come. It can be very costly especially if the bride or groom or both have many family, relatives and friends.

it depends on what sort of wedding are you planning to have, how many guests, the reception and what sort of food would you like to be in the menu and if you will be paying for the bridesmaids, flowergirls etc (for their dresses, shoes and accessories. In a filipino tradition, the couples cater this expenses)

 

We were married in 2001, we both had a lot of friends, Our civil wedding and around 120 people for the reception cost P60,000 back then.

 

Ya but I,m still married....:o:o:p

Joking aside, considering my wedding had over 120 people, a dead pig, a rented karaoke, lot's of food and more than enough booze (when in Rome). If you compared the same size reception in any other major country, I'm sure it would be astronomically higher.

For me a cheap Las Vegas style wedding would have been fine, but I decided to start off right and think of my wife first. Mistake? I don't think so. At least when she is thinking about all the BS I have given her since then, she will have something to smile about....

I also have fond memories from from the event, we all had a good time and one of my Canadian friends even had more fun than the rest, he ran his jeep into the ditch on his way home and spent the rest of the night in the clink.

 

Wedding cost what you let it cost. There is no top limit of what a Filipina will let it cost. Don't ever expect to hear "Dear, I love you we don't need a fancy wedding, let's keep it simple and not waste money".
So, rather than asking what it should cost, tell her what it's allowed to cost, say 20-30% less than is your limit as the budget will not hold. There will always be things showing up the last day that you just "must have".
I got married back in 2001. Gave a budget of 50k, and think I ended up paying 60k. Were about 100 guests, in the church on the Valencia highway, reception on El Oriente (yeah, wasn't that grand). Dresses, food, flowers, doves, geez what things are needed to get married. Filipinas are good at spending unlimited money on weddings, but are also very good at stretching a limited budget when needed.

 

some men just don't take wedding seriously or just not as important as most women do. in Philippines, women take weddings as a big deal because since we don't legalized divorce, we think that it's a lifetime commitment and its a once in a lifetime event (unless if your partner is up to something else) and we like to do it right. at the end of the day, its not how much people you invite or how much the wedding will costs but its how long the marriage will lasts. you'll find that some have spent a fortune for their dream wedding and they split up in a year of being married. I even heard a lady's story that she was once a bride but never been a wife ( found out after their wedding that the groom has slept with her bestfriend and shes pregnant). if you have a lot of money to burn, id say go for it. create your dream wedding, if your just being practical then just invite the ones that are really important to you.

 

Get her a passport and fly her to Hong Kong to get married. A hell of a lot cheaper, quicker, less hassle, no attending a lecture by virginal nuns, and you won't have 100 "cousins" turning up to free-load. Plus1 you come back in to the country on a balikbayan. Plus2 you can also divorce her in Hong Kong later if needed. If the ceremony is more important to her than the circumstance, she is probably a prima donna, so get rid and open a new one.

 

Sorry Marjan but i am lost, Your first post was to ask for help regarding is my girl friend is telling you the truth about the costs involved ect, Many members told you that they thought she was only trying to get money from you.
Then i read were you said ok i will only have her as a friend, Now i read quote (how much does a wedding cost in the phillpines MY GIRLFRIEND says 100 th peso) so she is still your girl friend even after all the GOOD advice from members who have been there done that. I have seen it so offen a member asks for help but his mind is made up as to what he will do before he asks for advice.

Their is many good girls here and many money hunters, if anyone asked me for money before we meet i run . i had a friend in London sent a girl here 40th peso for her passport she was married with 3 kids . good luck.