HI Guys, Moving and nervous

Hi Steve, I have been here for many years, and I wouldn't do anything different if I had the chance. no problems with relatives. But I have seen people crash and burn with an attitude that doesn't match up with the culture here.
All I can say, is come with the right attitude and don't get crazy if someone overcharges you P20 and get high blood pressure, and you have a good chance to be happy.

On another note, here is a link anyone should see if they plan to fall in love with a married woman that can't get a divorce here. How many men will go through this for the perfect sole partner? He did and so did she.
I wish you the best, and hope to meet you when you arrive.
Ron

Banged Up Abroad:Philippines/Prisoner Of Love - YouTube

 

Very interesting posts to read, you've all gave some amazing information. Thanks a ton

 

Right on I agree - to keep names out - there is a relative that got pregnant to her b/f who promised to marry her, he was a chef at that time, he has not married her yet the baby is now over 12 months old, he works for about 3 or 4 months at a time, then says the job has ended, he has taken her to live with his parents, he prefers to live with his parents so he does not have to work, and drink with his mates and play basket ball, his g/f now does nail art to support herself and child, even supports her b/f's drinking, he and his relatives expects us to help him build a house “they wish”

 

I think we are in agreement.

I think we are in agreement. I was writing from the view point of the husband being a foreigner and the wife being a Filipina. You were writing about a totally Filipino marriage. There is a total difference between the two types of marriages as far as the breadwinner is most of the time. I think the Filipina breadwinner many times comes from the family putting pressure on the young Filipinas to become the breadwinner by marrying a foreigner. The other major difference is in the Filipino/Filipina relationship is they many times do not get married so the father never has to take total responsibility for the child. Whereas in the foreigner/Filipina marriage you see the marriage and the new foreigner husbands attempting (the legal system is trying here) to adapt the lady's children by previous relationships.

Or maybe you were referring to another post.

 

I do think this is in very rare cases. My parents always tells me that they will love whoever i chose to be with for the rest of my life and they never asked me to marry a foreign man. I have a few friends who are the same, its their own free will. I met my fiancee through a common friend, not in matchmaking sites.
Ive never been married, never had children but i had 1 serious relationship with a Filipino guy and it was not nice. When i met my fiancee, thats when i became a better person. He respects me, we are equal and he tries to help me anyway he can. I thank him everyday for that. I talked to my friends who are also in a relationship with foreign men and they all agree that its much much better. Words spread and now other Filipina women would like to have foreign men because others say it is very fulfilling and happy and much better than having Filipino boyfriends

 

Hi, Steve B. I hope u have a good trip moving to DGTE, I live in Phoenix Az. and used to live and travel between here and Cebu, so i dont know much about DGTE but it sounds good and i would be interested in hearing about your experiences, so If u want to contact me perhaps i can give u a little perspective on living in the Philippines. TOM