I GUESS NOT EVERYONE LIKES US

When I last went there, a few expats sat drinking having a good chin wag, but there was one particular guy who was louder than the rest, every sentence had the f**k word some times two f**ck words in a sentence. Would'nt bother me but wife was with me plus other women. Not going to tell you what Nationality they was, but I'll give you three guesses.

 

You guys are killing me. I really do have the look of the dude and I curse like a sailor.

 

There are days when it is the pressure release

JP

 

There is a big difference between no fashion sense/unable to buy new clothes and not having the self respect or respect of others to maintain decent personal hygiene and behavior in public. This personality type is usually fast to fight because you "disrespected him" by asking that he not curse in front of you/your wife/your kids.

 

New clothes are certainly not necessary but clean clothes are. Moreover, bathing is a must. A stinky foreigner is bad news.

 

I disagree with the facebook post. I surely don't believe everything that appears on the internet. I truly have not seen but one expat get out of line in a year and a half. Maybe it is that I never go to Why Not? Maybe I do my drinking in private or a secluded friendly expat bar? And all that I have seen mostly are clean and well dressed. Why did someone write that post on FB? And why is it displayed on our forum? Just rattling the cage for nothing. I help these poor people a lot more than their gov't or fellow Filipinos. they are glad that I am here. So what is the problem with some of these that only come here for cheap booze and cheap women? I wish we could send them home but I don't have the right to do that. So, I live my life the best I know how. And by the way my Filipina is not a child. 42 years old.

 

You have to get to know the different places here. This is a place with many expats as well as many tourists. Some of the businesses which pop up cater to different groups. I to to the places where I can be myself and not be bothered that I offend anyone. Indeed, if you were to complain to the management and threaten never to come back, you wouldn't get much sympathy.

Open your eyes. It's your bad if you site down next to a table full of loud expats pounding alcoholic drinks and then get upset because of their behavior. Just the same, you wouldn't walk into a biker bar and then complain to the trash talking, tattooed Hell's Angel next to you for being too rowdy.

Whynot is a bit deceiving. It looks like a clean, family place during the day. Visit the disco at night and all thoughts of family friendly would go right out the window.

Customer service is important, but part of good customer service is the refusal of service to those who aren't a good fit for your service. Resto-bars rely on high volume, but many of them also rely on niche services to distinguish themselves from the competition.

If you aren't sure of which places are generally family friendly, then ask here.

 

Sure, there are a lot of foreigners here chasing young girls, many just to young. There are some really sick foreigners here as well. I'll admit that, but not all of us are.

However what should also be mentioned is that so many of these *younger* girls you meet lets say under 21 most have a horror story if you get to know her long enough on how a filipino boyfriend, family member, neighbor and such forced her, raped her, tricked her, and so forth. Some may be just pity stories or because they are to shy to say the truth but many are very real. The culture here is such things are no big deal as far as the police go and if the father doesn't chase him down with a bolo and give out family justice then its all good.

The culture is also one that teaches Filipino's that Filipino's are just not good, just not beautiful, and just not worth anything. To be anything one must be a hyphenated Fil like Fil-Am or so forth. The TV stars, movie stars, beauty queens, and so forth are almost always mixed and very light skin. This leaves many feeling if they want to improve their worth and families worth they need foreign blood added in yet they don't even realize this but simply pursue it. I'm no good looking hunk but am a younger foreigner here with near 7 years experience. I have met and briefly dated a few Filipina's who were educated and late 20's to early 30's who said they weren't looking for a relationship but simply wanted to have a kid with white skin... quick turn off to me.

So remember, whenever they point a finger at us they have 3 more pointing back at themselves. Its past time Filipino's take responsibility for their own passive failures in their culture.

With that said I still love the Philippines and the people and country have a lot of great things. Its just time to stop blaming foreigners.