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Is a marriage ( relationship is a 50/50 thing?) We have to meet each other 1/2 way

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  1. DaveD

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    Very well said IMO! I agree, but I never could have written it so succinctly.
     
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    DaveD, Jan 7, 2016
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    Fairly simple, it is a management team and the best qualified person should make the decisions no matter who that is and it will switch back and forth unless you married a good looking woman with a sweet potato for a brain. Some cross training sure wouldn't hurt either. If she has never bought a car, I would be making that decision, I will let her make decisions that life and training have prepared her for.

    With any woman anywhere, you can tell them that you don't care about 90% of things but you will have the other 10% your way and over a few months time they get used to having everything their way because of your 10% they probably agree with 5-7%. The trouble comes when something comes up that you will not stand for, a real deal breaker. At this point many women will think that all they need to do is work on you, whine, plead, scream, cry, sulk, go silent and withhold affection and they will eventually get their way. Sometimes when they walk away you just have to tell them to keep going. At which point one lady asked me "You really would throw US away over this?" to which I answered that it had been all Her up to that point and as soon as a little bit of US/Me started to intrude, crap like this happens. Now we have found TWO things I won't stand for.:wink:

    I think people should spend at least a year together before getting married. It certainly has kept me from making some mistakes.
     
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    50% soulmates & 50% cellmates.
     
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    Anyone who thinks a live-together relationship is 50/50 need only tell his girl "OK, I just spent 50% of the day with you and now I will go out with my buddies for a beer for the other 50% of the day" If that works then you have a 50/50 relationship.

    For me I am finding (in this particular relationship) that its about a 90/90 split. We each give close to 100% of our energy, commitment, etc but hold back about 10% for "Me Time". This does not mean we dote on each other. It means if I am typing away on this forum and she comes up to me I shall put down the computer and give her my undivided attention . . . . 90 % of the time :smuggrin:
     
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