Health & Wellness Best Posts in Thread: Looking for Marriage Counseling, Family Therapy, Psychologist

Considering your issue nothing you *talk* about or books and the sort will help considering the standard attitude of that type of Filipina. Having other female friends for her to talk to about the real issues would be great except they tend to never talk about their problems other then the complaints they have about you.

The only thing you can honestly do is walk away from her. Be ready to split while saying how much you still love her but can't take how she treats you or acts anymore (still keep open communication such as texts after and try even maybe trying to ask her to dinner a couple times). Ball is in her court and either she tries hard to get you back realizing her issues or else it doesn't happen.

It really sucks but the women here are so very stubborn to admit they have issues (well women in general) and refuse to admit after a year or a few years they change and often stop caring for their partner moving into more of a roommate with occasional benefits situation.

 

Hi there, me and my husband are qualified counsellors. I am from the uk and he is Filipino. He has twenty years experience working with families couples and individuals so if you are interested just send me a personal message.
Christine

 

I sort of gave up on changing others when I figured out I could not even help or change myself most of the time, so how much harder would it be to change others.

 

My advice is move on, you only have one life and you can't help someone unless they want to help themselves. Whatever you do, it will always be your fault, whatever the outcome.

 

There's a mental health rehabilitation center here. My suggestion is that you drop her off there and flee the country.

That lawyers are offering this service should be indicative of what you should expect. If your marriage is in on edge, they'll charge a nice fee to push it off the cliff and then hit you again with separation services.

 

@Tolsma is a new user here on the forum. I believe new users are not allowed to PM.

 

I agree with my anonymous buddy. People seek marriage therapy in an attempt to change someone but in reality, the only person you should and can change is yourself. You don't need a counselor to change yourself. Philippine law does not yet provide for divorce but the lawyers can help with a legal separation. When you find out how much that will cost you, you may be more willing to change yourself to put up with her crap, or you may decide it is worth it to leave. That is the only kind of counselling that is required here.

On the other hand, if she is a church goer then ask her pastor/priest about counselling. Most clergy offer it.

 

This is none of my business, but if she is brick mode in the sheets then there is probably no hope for her and that's grounds for dismissal. I believe FREAK is something which can't be taught. You can teach technique, but you can't teach beast mode.

Otherwise, I would just leave her to brick out and get a helper. Maybe use her as a coat hanger or cat toy.

If she doesn't have a job, school or some sort of hustle to attend to every day then I wouldn't expect much. Retirement is a killer for old folks. I imagine it's not much different for the young. It's evolution. If the world has no use for you, then you slowly rot and your DNA goes into the waste basket. Good that the retirees are around just long enough to enjoy the rotting stage after a long run of usefulness.