Married Expats

pfotoguy,

I have been married twice with very different results. Time number 1 was an American girl that I had dated for 10 years. Things were going OK but I had no desire to get married. She coaxed me into marrying her; I remember there was a lot of crying. After 4 painful years we got divorced. Time number 2 met a very nice Filipina girl in all the wrong places. Got a K1 petition and brought her to the states. 1 month later I was very anxious to marry her. No marriage is perfect but 22 years later I’m still happy.

So my advice is “don’t get married unless you really want to.” If you do it just to make other people happy, you may not be too happy with the outcome. The desire to marry the woman and spend the rest of your life with her should be almost overpowering.

 

Why buy a book when you can join a library ? :p

 

Care to elaborate? I was under the (wrong?) impression that anyone married in the R.P. has to pay extortion, aka swag, aka ANNULMENT to the tune of Php 150k or more??

 

1) as others have said you should have an overwhelming desire to stay with her forever, be in love with her and want to take care of her, no doubts period. Exception is a women you can trust for marriage of convenience, with your freedom intact, such as business reasons, visa reasons, etc

2) No matter how much most women CLAIM they want love, happiness, etc. they really want security which is a euphemism for money and putting you in a cage, making you their pet. Notice I said most, not all.

3) I do not consider having to teach them about sex "low maintenance". Some are unteachable except maybe by a sex therapist.

4) If she's family oriented (99.99% of all Filipinas) and religious, especially fanatical about religion, do NOT marry her unless your a long ways away from her family and you're also a religious fanatic.

5) 5 is just plain nuts as one other responders said.

As another responder said, if your asking these questions the answer is NO.

 

A divorce obtained abraod is legal and binding for a foreigner in the Philippines. However, if one needs NSO to acknowledge it, he must take the original divorce decree to the Philippine embassy or consulate which serves the area the divorce was granted in, and get it Authenticated. One then must take that to a Philippine judge and have it validated and sent to NSO.

If the foreigner is the petitioner, the divorce is recognized for the Filipino as well. If the Filipino is the petitioner, the divorce is not recognized. From the family code;

Art. 26. All marriages solemnized outside the Philippines, in accordance with the laws in force in the country where they were solemnized, and valid there as such, shall also be valid in this country, except those prohibited under Articles 35 (1), (4), (5) and (6), 3637 and 38. (17a)

Where a marriage between a Filipino citizen and a foreigner is validly celebrated and a divorce is thereafter validly obtained abroad by the alien spouse capacitating him or her to remarry, the Filipino spouse shall have capacity to remarry under Philippine law.


Larry

 

5) 5 is just plain nuts as one other responders said.

As another responder said, if your asking these questions the answer is NO.[/QUOTE]

Well, it works with the others. A guy married the Fil after the first child(she became matured) and it works!And there's also and expat still together for years with 3 kids and not married.

Btw, If i'm already married 3 times, i will be an expert or a consultant of Marriage.

 

But, library books have been, umm...'touched' my many hands.

 

I guess but depending where, you are looking, So have many of the Ladies here too!:D