Best Posts in Thread: Please gentleman, have some patience, understanding and respect of the local culture!

Some people are just not Happy and will never adapt to anywhere,
Such is my experience

 

Maybe locals don't use violence against rude expats, but what I observe is, no matter if it's an expat or other locals who behaving rudely, these people get no respect in return and get ignored like they don't exist, seen that many times and love it

 

My Filipina wife is much more impatient and demanding about these things than I ever could be, whether we are in the States or the Philippines. She isn't rude or disrespectful about it, but she does want it done the way she wants it done and isn't shy about letting people know that.

 

I've also experienced this.. in the States! I don't necessarily think the westerners are being disrespectful because they are frustrated at the locals. It's more due to the fact that being disrespectful to workers is common in the States in general. Not as frowned upon. Not that it's ever acceptable here, but point is, I've seen Americans be rude to other American workers.

Filipinos in general, are usually, not always, more subdued and willing to be patient with the workers since that's ingrained in Pinoy culture. Not as much anymore, as even Filipinos are starting to westernize. I have definitely seen other Filipinos being rude to local workers in PI as well, but hardly ever.

But either way, we should all show some more respect to people and learn to be more patient. Life is too short to get huffy and puffy about things like that.

 

In those circumstances all reasonable people would agree with your concern and action - it is self defense.

 

The person most insulted by bad behaviour is the person behaving in that way - it shows a total lack of respect for themselves as human beings and as members of the society to which they currently belong.

 

There's an initial chafing that most expats go through that is part of culture shock. If it continues it's no longer culture shock. Wherever you go, you take you with you.

 

This thread is useless because it lacks even one basic specific instance and everybody must agree with it. So, it gives everybody a chance to jump in and agree and accomplish nothing except feel good.

I'll give you a specific instance since you mention it. One tw@t, sorry chap, threw his toys out of the pram because he was trying to use the express checkout (10 items or less) to avoid queuing and he was told he couldn't because he had a trolley full. Now he might have been in an extreme hurry with many important appointments during the day in his life as a jet-setter, or more likely, he was probably planning on sitting on his fat backside all day moaning and complaining. Either way, hardly a reason to start hurling abuse don't you think?

Any other queries?