Best Posts in Thread: Relocating from Thailand to the Philippines

I'll still say there are plenty of *good* ladies to be had, we just don't hear about those sorts of relationships as much as the ones that go bad. We as men and foreigners get what we hear from fellow men who are foreigners who aren't so likely to say the breakup or problems were his fault maybe he was chasing extra college @ss on the side or overly controlling. Yes, there are tons of bad women and every new inexperienced expat is going to run into a number of them before finding a good lady because he's lonely so he goes for what is fast and easy which is highly unlikely to also be good. Consider it like food... you get fast food which is likely to be unhealthy with little to no nutritional value but your eating within 5 minutes or you go to a restaurant and have to wait 15-20 minutes for your meal which is healthier and has nutritional value. Same thing, the good girls aren't going to come home with you that night and they aren't going to be found in easy spots looking for you. Sure, there is the rare one who listened to some friends to try online dating for a brief time but the good girls tend to ditch it quick because of all the pervs just like the good guys ditch it quick because of the scammers. However as well one must always think what kind of realistic future you two could have because early on Filipina's are just thinking about the immediate because that is the lifestyle here but after adapting a bit they think on the future somewhat also. What kind of future does she want he can provide and that goes beyond a roof over the head and food on the table.

 

Sheesh.... Misogyny much ?

 

God protect me from educated women. Had enough in the old Western world. Educated brains, means endless discussions. Here; an educated heart, but nothing to discuss - from her side :-)

 

Sometimes I have trouble posting if the internet is extremely slow.

 

This post is now Completely of topic WTF

 

And; sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. That is pretty clear; every man has to put his big boy pants on each day and decide what will happen that day in their life.

Does education make a Filipina understand your politics or sports or whatever you find interesting in life? My wife follows the Dallas Cowboys, does she know more about the team than me?...Nope, do I know more than the people that are paid to follow the NFL, another big Nope.

My point, I guess, is just find someone that fits you. Man up; I've always thought about relationships in the fishing mindset; keep casting until you catch the one you want.

Personally have seen terrible situations and have also seen some positive.

Shawn

 

This topic has gotten interesting...been a bit boring lately on the forum to be honest.

I came up in the military with many friends that had Filipina wives; was at the conclusion most of my life that Filipinas would never be for me. I was married to a Korean at the time and with the stress that came with that nut job I couldn't throw stones. So many things ended badly that I was really turned off on how things went for friends (and later with more stripes having to deal with the drama of my troops).

Years later after retirement from the USAF and some travels you find someone that just catches your eye. Now you have a house, a life and person that you will spend your life with. There are always challenges and being straight and honestly finding the right person is what makes things what they are.

There are many folks I've met with some great stories on how they met...some decades ago when it was just a pen pal thing.

Not to paint a rosy picture (I will never wear the rose colored glasses about the PI); there are obviously challenges when you decide to be part of their lives...sometimes it works out though.

Shawn

 

Greetings
Interesting idea about putting an add in a newspaper I am a Brit/Aussie and of the older group, your comment about nursing school Brought back a Memory from a University town i lived in in North Thailand. University students had what i called a sugar daddy The arrangement was they formed a relationship with an older man both Thai and Westerners for a period of time say 4 years until they graduated and then went back to their various provinces and carried on with their various options.

I am perhaps out of line here I wonder if a similar relationship would work in P.I.
in Thailand they were called M B A mutual beneficial relationships
I guess lots of us fall of the perch so giving some one a chance of a nursing or similar degree rather than leaving them without any options is a valued idea ( just thinking out loud in Print)