Best Posts in Thread: So! where, are all these Expats Hiding?

After 7 years in the Philippines almost think many are just avoiding others to an extent. While plenty of good foreigners around whenever a group seems to come up there are some very loud, obnoxious, often drunk types who just p*ss off the blokes who want to have a chat and make a few friends. When I first arrived in Dumaguete from CDO back 4 1/2 years ago I saw the same thing with the regular gatherings at McDoc. A couple groups that seemed more invitation only and then the main group sitting in the center of old McDoc free to whoever sat down. But in that group there were a couple of good chaps but always a few who all they would talk about is thing new young honey they nailed the other night and believe it or not often shoving a naked picture of the girl around. In my times here I have met former CIA hitmen, lawyers who made millions but somehow lost it all through getting screwed over somehow, former mobsters, former free lance assassins, a couple of former generals/admirals (insert very high military rank here), and some other very odd to find people.

Lot of us I think are just settled down with our honey, maybe have a family/kids (1 here), not into drink fests, and just wanting some company can have a slightly intellectual conversation with.

I'd love to see a regular but regulated get together and meet a few more. But not into hanging out at a bar, talking about chicks and latest sex conquests, or someone's massively fabricated life story. Until then I'll just be hanging around keeping it peaceful other then when strangle the occasional suicidal driver.

 

Hahahahaha yes that is the worst shithole I have ever lived in. Lot of crime. Drugs, murders, lots of stealing and liars like you wouldn't believe. and the people just throw their trash out no matter where they are. I lived there because my wifes family is there and she didn't want to go away from her mother. We came close to separating once because of it. I finally put my foot down and said "We either leave here now or consider me gone" I will never know what would have happened if she had wanted to stay. Now we are very happy and both love it here in Dumaguete.

 

At home in side out of the sun, bloody hot m8

 

Yes - a reasonable amount of alcohol tends to act as a 'social lubricant'.
Somewhere like La Fiesta or Gerry on The Beach would probably work well.

 

I would also be glad to do something like that. I really need to get out more and meet people. but I tried a few times and didn't like the way (as some say) that some foreigners act with their drinking and being loud and obnoxious.

 

Yah, the no alcohol part would be pretty impossible but would at least be nice if the place wasn't a bar. have no issue with someone having 1 or 2 but just don't have it in me to be around those who after a few more get so loud and obnoxious. Had enough for that in CDO. Be good for it to be a place that offers a few snack foods that appeal to foreigners a bit more with plenty of room for extras to drop in and grab a seat. Could be nice bringing our gals as well as sometimes they are looking for filipina's they can relate to a bit more being with a foreigner.

However no idea where to setup such a thing and horrible at planning and setting crap up. I'm one of those lazy blokes most the time rather just know there's a friendly non drunk English speaking group and open invitation for extras.