Cebu Thinking of moving to Cebu.....

Be patient. I've been down the frustration road myself, but eventually it will have a happy ending (no pun intended).
I would suggest relaxing your criteria as much as you can because you just might be surprised. I was looking in the late 20 to mid 30 age range and ended up with one that's 20 but looks about 14. She picked me because she's not someone I would have gone looking for. Before her I had dated only women here in their late 20s to early 30s but could never seem to find the right one. My 20yo gf and I "connect" .. and she hardly texts and rarely gets on the computer.
Try some of the dating sites since you don't go out or talk to girls on the street much .. Date in Asia (because it's free), Cherry Blossoms and Filipina Cupid are good and you can search on what you want.

 

Ok, I have to say thanks to you and most of the others for their non-flame replies. I admit I kinda spilled my guts here and expected to get whiplashed for it, but suprise suprise, helpful answers. I really don't think it's that hard here, but it just does not measure up to the hype you find on the web about women in the Philippines.

Several have suggested I make moves on gals at work. I find this difficult to do because you never know-is she being nice because she wants to make a sale or that's expected by her job, or is she interested in knowing you better.

One replier said maybe hard to find a woman here who is educated, smart and yet feminine and I think that's a problem no matter what country you're looking at.

The only woman I was ever in love with was from S. America and she was smart, but in a femnine, non-competitive way.
I am looking at some S. American countries now, I speak a little Spanish, but the airfares from Manila are quite steep, nearly a thousand more than back to my own country which is a wasteland for old men like me.

Don't get me wrong, the women here are nice and they won't burn you like the women back home, if you exercise commond sense. Also I do not think most of the women here in their 20's are interested in guys in their 60's, unless their interest is mostly pragmatic (money, security). All you old guys, stand naked in front of the mirror and ask yourself, 'if I were a 20 year old Filipina, would I be excited about sleeping with me?' There *are* some women who dig older men, but that's an exception rather than the rule.

Sorry if this offends some people here, but that's the way I see it.

 

I think you'd be more miserable in Cebu. Dumaguete is a paradise for finding a woman. If your looking for an woman who can hold a conversation then look for an educated woman or find one who seems smart and after you see she has real potential then further her education. Meet other foreigners who have longterm wives or GFs, many with wives will have friends they will try and set you up with including educated ones and often not the 18ish year old that seems so common. There are a few sites you can check out if care to PM me privately can suggest 2 that are fair and free. You can find single women up to 30 fairly easy and a little work find those past. Might have a kid possibly but plenty of educated women still not married come late 20's. The girls here are much simpler money wise also. Cebu they expect a LOT more money passed their way while here they are happy that you take care of basic needs.

You do need to accept this is the Philippines as far as girls being a bit shy at first. I tend to worry if the girl doesn't seem shy at first thinking she has a lot of experience chasing foreigners which generally just means gold digger. Nothing approaching a woman at her job if your a customer, mix up the chit chat and see what happens. A big thing is finding where the kind of women your looking for go to relax and then being around their to meet and greet. You want a girl in college then around lunchtime hang out at the major areas they eat near the Universities, you want a hooker then hang out at the boulevard around 7-10pm, you want instant disease then evening-night at the pier, want religious girls hang out at the park across from the church on Sundays, want an educated single gal go to the more relaxed non dirty bars, coffee shops early morning, or lunchtime at the cheaper fast food resteraunts near common business's they work (downtown Mang Inasal for lunch for instance).

You need to think outside the box, make yourself a regular for a week at a place and look friendly, smile, and drop obvious glances at potentials.

And don't worry on gals at work. If they are looking for a sale you'll find out soon enough. Other then that they won't play fake if not interested. If not interested they will say they are married, taken, not allowed at work and their are camera's (even when no camera in sight), she lost her cell/stolen/or doesn't have her *new* number memorized yet and not allowed to carry phone at work, and so forth.

 

Well since you brought it up and my 20yo gf is sitting right here next to me I asked her if she was excited about sleeping with me. Do I really need to tell you her answer? I read her body and actions when we are intimate and I believe her when she tells me she is excited to be with me. She tells me she loves me .. she acts like she loves me. That's enough for me. Money, security? Sure, but is that much different than women anywhere? She seems happy just to be with me and I believe that that's all she wants because she doesn't ask for anything. I'm happy, she's happy, so whether that fits in anyone else's box is not my problem.

 

I have to agree with EX231 for the most part. All women are looking for security which includes financial security, this means basics of having basic needs met and not having to worry about roof over their heads, food in their belly, medical needs, and other basics. Of course some women here like everywhere else are gold diggers who are just materialistic. But you also look at the difference between a younger filipino or older foreigner which is the 2 choices. The younger filipino guy is likely to smoke a lot, get drunk at every chance, doesn't show affection, not showing he cares, doesn't seem very interested to please her romantically or intimately, and seems more likely to cheat or just use her. Foreigners tend to act more caring and give far more attention to their girls even wanting their input and help. Girls think often its because he's old thus more mature but really its not because he's 60ish but a westerner who has been trained by western women to be this way since he was young which Filipina's eat up.

 

but a westerner who has been trained by western women to be this way since he was young which Filipina's eat up.
Not sure if I would agree with the above statement. but the rest 100%

I would say more the man had good family training / morals . ( mum and dad grandparents etc.)

The training I had from women / girl friends when I was young was b*tch b*tch complain harasses, give me this and you can have that, give me a larger barn / car.
The lovely young lady I have (3 years now) is a real gem, very loving caring only wants basics, but the man has to do his part also, if he is a real a—s hole drunkard etc. then he will loose any woman.
Yes there are many gold diggers out there, some burnt by the local or even foreigner men, so I guess what goes around comes around.

 

This is a very interesting discussion. Yes, there are ample women in Phils, but, naturally, not all of them are looking for what you are looking for. About a month after getting to know each other, mine asked me if I knew of any single men who want a woman. My girl had been telling her sister about me and what a nice person I am. Her sister told her to ask me if I have a friend who wants to get married. I told her no because I don't want to judge someone's character just because I know them. But, my point is, with her sister being 22 she is already looking for a husband. Mine is 30, btw. I was buying a computer in a computer store and one of the girls helping me told me she has a friend who wants to get married. Just like that. I'm no spring chicken, at 72 but her friend didn't care. Too bad polygamy is not allowed. I could have a bevy of hot wives. lol
So, I really don't understand not being able to find a woman in the Phils.Just my humble opinion. I wish him luck with his hunt. : )

 

Hmm, the post above attributed to me was not made by me. I am not 72, my girl is not 30 and she has no sister.:D

 

If you can work that one out...........You shouldn't have to much trouble finding the right girl !

Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

 

i was single in dumaguete for 7 years before i got married, oh my god i miss that 7 years