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That's a game that many don't want to play here. I don't ask others to buy me any beers and I don't want to buy for them. We are all on vastly different incomes here. I might show up expecting to nurse 2 beers for the afternoon as I know my budget and you may want to down a half dozen. That's good when each pays their own way. When someone buys me a beer I say thank you but I purposely do not reciprocate as its a game I do not wish to start. If the fellow never buys me another beer then its a win-win.

 

If you let your guard down or you don't have gonads you deserve what you get. You have to have street smarts to survive here. If you run around wearing rose colored glasses here someone is bound to step on them! This also applies to foreigners that put too much trust in other foreigners here. Some foreigners will sponge off you and never reciprocate. I have bought beers for foreigners here who have never bought me a beer. Look around and you will see some foreigners who always have their hands out here in Dumaguete!

 

HOLY COW!

"A good man is hard to find."

Or is it the other way around?

Heck, methinks it's a little of both.

HOLY COW! HAHAHA

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It's funny you made this observation about the old Spanish colonization days.

Although I'm not an expert by any stretch f the imagination, I did notice in my travels around the world where there was colonization by the English and the Spanish, that there seemed a big difference between the two.

My impression is that when the Spanish colonized, they basically "raped" the colonial area of it's natural resources (gold, silver, virgin forests, etc), and then left that area very impoverished.

When the English colonized, they basically "raped" as well, but left a "tip" for this, by leaving behind ports, rail lines, a few roads, a few factories, and other minor infrastructures.

Interesting....

nwlivewire

 

Absolutely, many Filipinas are happy with genuine love and a little security.

 

Being suspicious by nature (especially since I moved to the PI) I suspect somewhere down the line money/favor etc will be mentioned... Expected from you of course!

 

I guess it could be the way a person got raised up at home and the manners they were taught (or not taught as the case may be).

Even in the old Frontier, pioneer days, when an invitation was accepted between settler families, one came to the dinner or the event with something - no matter how humble one was, or the gift given to the host/hostess. Whether it was a bouquet of flowers plucked fresh from the yard, or churned butter/cheese from the cow, eggs - one just didn't come empty-handed, expecting to be waited on hand and foot.

To me, it's such a thoughtful little thing to do and a gift to the host/hostess represents a coming together of good tidings. In today's world, most folks don't have to churn butter, pluck flowers and all the rest of it anymore. I'll often ask the Host/Hostess ahead of time if there is anything in particular I can bring that can compliment the meal (beverage?dessert? or?), and whatever he/she suggests is what I bring - plus a small bouquet of flowers.

I have been invited to BBQs where the menfolk have done the cooking and Boy-oh-Boy, is that ever good eating!

So I guess it depends on if you got raised up with this set of manners or not - and if you remember or care to use 'em.

nwlivewire

 

Reciprocity is not nearly as common here as in my home country.

 

I hear you loud and clear. I can be a bit stubborn at times. If someone thought they could use extortion on me I would give it all away to a stranger except for what I needed to get out if that were the only way to keep it out of the extortionists hands because you don't reward people for bad behavior...EVER.

 

Just mixing my metaphors with gender identity - ooops. It's the principle that counts.

Yep, totally agree....I should be less sweeping in my statements!

C