Best Posts in Thread: When Trust is lost! We become Vunrable

I will try and keep this as short as I can but it shows how vulnerable we all can be at times.
We all hear and /or know of many problems that we can encounter here, We can all think that we have found our paradise yet sometimes it can all go so very Wrong. This is the 2nd Story I have come across this week about trust but this one left me with a Shiver down my Spine as I know the guy. Although he is not a friend we have spoken on Occasions and To me, he had a good Solid marriage but time away in his own Country ( No names or Country to protect him) has told a few home truth's I am afraid to say.

They( he and is wife) built a house not too far from me but in the Other Baringay. his circle of friends were of the Business Nature, which the Wife Enjoyed immensely.

His work got demanding and he was away a little more than usual.

He was not Due home until Jan 2015. but he managed to get home last week as a Surprise to his Wife of 7 years.

To his Complete and Mind Shattering surprise. the House was all in darkness when he arrived. (Although by Cell Phone his wife told him she was at Home baking)
On Opening the door, No Alarms, In fact NO Electricity, Phone call? Yep! I am at Home was the reply. OK so put the PC on and we can Chat.

He told her he was in the house and so were a family he did not know.
I will not bore all with any of the trivial but never the less lies that Followed over the next hour or two But.......

It transpires that to maintain the upkeep of this all Important Lady farce she had mortgaged the house for 1.3 million Peso, not paid the household accounts and rented out the house to family members friends.
I have now spoken to this guy who is besides himself with grief, she apparently has not paid the mortgage and of course the bank is now pursuing a foreclosure.
In short, all Trust built over the years has gone out of the Window, he has nothing but an Empty life, a house they may well loose, No Electricity or water and a wife who is apparently blaming him for all this, saying he should have been here. not realizing, no work no money.

We all say we have it sorted and it will never happen to us but, How Vulnerable are we.

A good friend of mine said to me not long ago, "Whatever we have or put into things, is only as good as the Relationship" How so very true is this my fellow members.


JP