⌛ Filipino Character

Same here. I consider myself VERY blessed to have the in-laws I have!

 

Hi Larry,

Same with my family, we helped them a few times when there was a real need for it, but counting all and value what they have done for us, they are way ahead of us. On my wife's 50th B-day her parents signed over and gave her title to a nice lot on Samal Island very close to Pearl Farm Resort in case we like to move there and build a house in the future.
Best family ever and I can not ask for more. Recently Great Papa died and we all miss him very much.

Many lovely families in Philippines.

Benjamin

 

12 years ago in Cebu I met a girl whose mother was in the hospital. The extended family had sent money to her grandmother in Cebu to pay for the hospitalization etc.

But, this girl told me, grandma decided to keep half of it for herself instead of putting it all towards her own daughter's medical care!

 

For Sure!

I am sure, we all have very Good In Laws, I most certainly have, in the main, it is just a minor section, that create a few problems. The Bigger the family the more likelihood of having a Blip or two. My wife is one of 10 children, it is the Family of the Spouses that seem to be our problem.


Jack P.

 

That makes three of us.....and I am sure there are more out there.... it is good to hear the positive stories......this is a beautiful country with beautiful people.....otherwise we would not be here.... no place.....no people .....are perfect..... it helps to hear the positive stories
My relatives are dirt poor but for who and what they are they are pretty good people....try hard..... work hard.....have good values..... I could have done a whole lot worse..... even in my own country

 

Old says are often right

We have an old say in Italy.....Relatives are just like shoes, the closer (the knit) they are, the more they hurt!!
My troubles are represented by my brothers in law, being spoilt in the past and now finding it hard to accept that the cow has run dry.
We, my wife and I, are resorting to sell all assets in the Phils apart from our own home just to get them off our backs.
The buggers are so greedy that are already talking about who will get what as inheritance.....poor souls, must be terrible for them having to accept that there is not going to be anything to share soon...:D
We might even re-locate far from all these @ss***es without none of the so called family members knowing the new location or maybe even only renting from then on.
I'm lucky enough to have my wife's full support and understanding, she is actually more frustrated with them than I am.
Last trip to the Phils we did not even bother to visit them....what a loss...:D

THIS IS THE BIGGEST DRAWBACK OF LIVING IN THE PHILS as far as I'm concerned.

 

Learn how to just say NO and walk off, works every time for me.
If you support the family, you will have the same situation I once had.
Every one of them quit their jobs and moved in with us.
We packed our things and moved out, telling them we had warned them to keep or get jobs if they wanted to stay with us to begin with.
When they started texting Nida to ask about moving in with us again, she told them that they were on their own and we had nothing to loan, give or share anymore.
Only one sister and brother in law were hateful about it, but they are known in the family as trouble makers anyway, so no love lost there.
The ones who would work finally got jobs and the ones who don't work, live with the Father in law of the sister(guess which sister).

 

Family

I gave up helping people a long time ago. You cant help those who wont help themselves. To me you help someone they are not grateful it just means your a soft touch to be asked again and again and again. Not all but 99% of the time. Remember all the smiles and then the famous words " All you foreigners are the same, we not want you here, go back to you own country " I have a very simple reply to this :D

 

I started this rant, but I'd like to add something that shows the other and brighter side of Filipino character, My daughters birthdays are March 1 and 15. My wife's is March 23 and mine is March 24. Years ago I had parties for both daughters and the wife. By my birthday I had enough party. A good friend, a poor fisherman, asked why I wasn't having a party for myself. Offhand I said I was broke. An hour later he came back with 6 beers and a neighbors chicken he had shot with a sling shot. You can't do better than that. This happened over 20 years ago and we are still best of friends.

 

We have a lot of birthdays here right after Xmas and I don't celebrate mine (Jan. 4).
Not because there are too many parties, which are just an excuse to spend a lot of money, but because I always hated birthday parties.
My daughter has her birthday on the 23rd of January and I do go overboard for her because she likes a party.
My wife has hers on June 9 and we have a large family dinner because that is the way she likes to spend her birthday.
I did have to draw the line when the entire family (25 or so people) decided that we should throw their parties as well, there just isn't enough money in the world to throw that many parties, along with the many fiestas and other holidays they want to have at our house (which I have had to stop).
All is under control here now, but we were broke all the time before we finally wizened up and simply tightened our priorities and belts up.
Parties (dinners actually) can be fun, but not if you have an average of 2-3 per month, they are no longer special if had all the time.
My wife says parties are what keep most of the illegal "money lenders" in business in our area.