⌛ Finally here!

@Pedro: Ugh, sorry I didn't see your reply here. I really like it here. I plan on putting up a site where I can post my experiences. Stay tuned!

@Coyotes: That is a horrible story but I think the happy ending is that you are coming back. My Uncle got screwed here also, but not by a Filipina. He lost some money but the final score is that he is happy he came here (and he is still here.)

I think one of the tricky parts of your story is that it sounds like you had a long distance relationship for some time. I think people should avoid those if at all possible.

I think as far as long distance communication should go is to make the initial connect, setup a place to meet and then take it offline. Don't even try to get to know the person over the internet because it's so much better to ask those questions in person.

Really, it could be argued that being away from someone isn't even really a relationship. It may work for some, but it's risky. Sure, some people can't avoid it even if they are technically living in the same household (military out on deployment.) If you aren't there, you have much less ability to influence the relationship.

Or maybe I'm just talking out of my @ss.

Anyways, please come back and open the bar again!

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Dude

 

Been there worn the T-Shirt but it went on for 4 and a half years, love makes one blind. I went through a period after of depression and a hatred of Filipino women and distrust of all Filipino's. That was sorely wrong and it took a long time to trust anyone again. The fact is that it does not matter where you are in the world someone will want to make you a sucker.

The internet is not the right pace to find a partner and certainly not a place to show feelings and passion and think the other person feels the same. The problem of being a foreigner is in the third world you look wealthy and make you a mark for the dishonest gold diggers, we attract them unfortunately.

The best thing is to search in the reality world and be the one doing the chasing the captured heart is normally the best option. Those that want to capture your heart in a impoverished country normal are the ones to be wary of.

I have gone through two relationships where my female Filipino partners did the capturing. It took me time to learn hopefully you learn by your first mistake at least you have not lost the amount of money I have, but the heart ache is the same I expect. Best of luck on getting the bar up and running again in the future.

 

hi and again thanks for the supportive words, i'm not one to hold a grudge on anyone, let alone a nation lol, just cos of my own stupidity.

I have met sum1 else now, but that also has it's own complications, time will sort them out though. She's been really supportive, as i knew her as a friend before. if she's still around when i get back gr8, if not, well....i'll just have a good time here, the past month, now all the stress of a break-up is fadeing, has been really nice.

 

Good to hear, life is too short to brood and be depressed

 

Its time Coyotes

Its time for a little vacation from Dumaguete I think. But take the girl with you for her sake if you care about her. Go relax for a month else where. let it cool off or hire your own guys. It is one of two things just trying to scare you or they have a plan to hurt you which is not something I am not happy to hear.

I had the death threats before when I had a case against some thieves that had stolen from me. I had to move back to Cebu for a while because they made my life a living hell. I wasn't scare for myself but I was always worried about my wife and friends. That is the big reason my house is for sale in Mindanao and why I am looking a moving to Negro's.

I really wish you all the best if their is anything I can do let me know...if you want you can go stay at my house.

 

Coyotes I think the situation become worst, my only advice, I think better not to go back in dumageute.This people will really make your life to hell.Don't post also here the details where you are in Philippines.Because if they are also reading here,it's a nice place for them to trace you.It's not more on cowardness, but you have to think for your own safety.This kind of people as I see are dangerous.Never come back to this woman ,once she did it before, she can do it again .

 

i wouldn't run away from these little corrupt people, that do anything for sex!


this isn't the first time i've been given advice to get out of town! but that isn't, can't be the way forward for the philippines.
corupt little men who can use or rather mis-use power to get personal benifit, must be reported

 

In philippines,territory and corruption plays a big role.War between filipino and foreighner ,mostly foreighner is the loser.If possible avoid getting into trouble there, then you can enjoy the paradise.Try to think , putting yourself into a long time trouble with this gangs because only of this woman who suck your money is not worth.Sorry, but this woman is really a real shame to me (as a filipina)

 

I agree with daffs. This sort of thing almost never ends well for the foreigner...If you're mobile move on - another island - another country - lesson learnt.

 

That's my attitude, move on move house its just not worth the hassle to stay where you can be got at. I rent only just for that very reason, once bit, twice bit then I got wise. Unfortunately if your white you stick out and the worst of Filipino society will always see you as a mark.

Thankfully there is not many within the Filipino population because most Filipino's are honest and care. But there are to many of the few in the big cities and foreigners especial the old ones are often taken as fools. When it happens to you you feel like kicking your self for being so stupid. i worn the T-Shirt twice and made the same mistakes twice and that's how gullible and stupid I am sometimes.

Take care and please do not jump out of the fire and into the frying pan like I did. It is best to move even if it's not far away on the same Island in a different city.