⌛ helping vs being used your input please.

Let's take a look at the other side. What if she is a wonderful girl? She is from a very poor family, what if she doesn't have enough to eat? Did she learn to eat better during the year together? If she is living with relatives, can she spend her limited money on just herself? Sounds like she is honoring her bf's wishes not to work. Would that bring an issue if the roll's were reversed?

Sometimes I think we all hear so many horror stories it's easy to get a little jaded and jump to conclusions.

Ok SHOOT now I will duck~:D
Ron

 

Home!

I know I can be an A...Hole. sometimes, It is easy for us, to say things, in response to your Plight, I have to Admit, my response was off the cuff BUT hse, consider this please, " Home is where the Heart is" Where is your heart, right now? Follow your Dream, Pat has again, hit it on the Head, DID? you really have to go back to Hawaii? There, I feel, may lay your Answer. GOOD LUCK!

Jack P.:o

 

I must have got very lucky . My wife is very tight with money with her family. Even when I tell her to send money to her family she will only give them a little at a time ( reason is she said they will blow it all in a day). She has also told me that if we started sending money every month they would all quit working and live off of us. Good thing the good lord sent her to me because her family would bleed me dry.

 

Young man, and I am assuming you are young, when I made the decision to marry my wife I worked two jobs (one loading trucks for several months) so we could have money to get married. You say you love her and that she is poor but you do not seem to want her to work. Believe me it is true that one of the family gets singled out to be the bread winner of the family at the expense of the other. This happened to my asawa. Her sister was given money to go to college while she got nothing but the chores her sister was supposed to be doing. Now her sister is the professional and my wife the OFW who still provides money to her family. If you marry a Filippina this is something you will have to live with. So the real question you need to ask is are you in love and are you going to marry this girlfriend, or are you going to cut your losses and run? This is your decision.

 

I like many others have lived here for a few years and many others much longer.

In honestly as far as I'm concerned if they have emergency needs thats it. And those emergency needs are medical costs and other real unforseen emergency issues and NOT cousins and 7th cousins twice removed either. Daily living expenses they could starve for all I care while it may sound harsh its how you need to be. If they won't work that's their issue and there are ways to make money here while they may not be fun and easy there are ways. If you let the family walk all over you they will and you need to draw a line between your money and the family and that line should be your GF/Wife.

Far as me I'd help with school expenses, emergency medical issues, and if a family member found a job and needed money to start such as 1 family member of my ex joined the military and needed money until first paycheck and another who had a job in Manila but needed fair to travel. Both checked out to be real and both got helped.

But your making the families issue worse every month just handing them money for daily needs. It never stops and its expected to increase if u do that. If you all of a sudden stop after having a standing habit of paying then your bad for the family.... so better to not start.

 

Hit the delete button, empty the recycle bin and reboot.

If you have any problems do a malware scan, you may have picked up a virus

 

So goes the very common quote " marry me and marry my family" lol! Anyways, test her, make a fake yahoo messenger...facebook...msn ...skype or whatever you two do by means of communication, add her there and pretend to be another foreign guy (rich) and lets see what will she do Goodluck! If she failed the test, you know what to do