Quack, Quack Oops! :o Well RCS, lets start with an apology, for some reason I thought it was a PM you sent, I see I was wrong. No to worry, it happens, especially to me. Most of us divorced men, can and will always read between the lines, Your monthly Amount will not be a bar, to the upbringing of your son, I think I can guess, you need to do some justification here, to your EX! We have all, had to do that at some stage. I make no issue of this fact, it is a personal issue and I respect that. In NO! way do I want this to look, derogatory to any one here but it has to be said, a 12 year old (foreign Child) will be far advanced in many things, the school System her is a total Farce, all that can happen, is that he will fall to the level of the day. IMHO. You said he was not coping with school there, maybe he will be better here, Kids have a habit of adjusting Quicker than us. Mine is doing well, now I do put that down to extra tuition, on Maths and Science, she has started Music lessons now, This is because we can to a degree, afford it. Another member said, there was not a lot of hope, For an 18year old, I disagree, I can only reiterate, what I said to this, we do have a way forward, if we are willing to pay. It is a sad fact of life, that money talks, it is up to us, as parents, to do the best we can, for our Children. There can be a Future for your son here, it may cost, You have to make the decision (well after the Justification) What is best. Maybe a 6 month stay will open eyes and doors for Him. Making friends, I don't think will be a problem, as I said, there are quite a few, with children the same age, Kids are kids, they will always find a way through the barrier. It is an open Ended thread my friend. Positives & Negatives will always be there. For Me, GO for it. Jack P.