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    I know somebody here in my place, who did some hunky funky to her husband. While he's asleep, she then will go out and meet the filipino lover. How can she do that while she has 2 children from the foreigner husband + 1 child to the previous filipino husband. I just don't understand why she has to do that, she have 3 children and a nice husband. I just want to know your opinion, I cannot ask anybody here in Salalah in case i will get in trouble, we only have a small filipino community, everybody knows each other. I am the one who feels guilty for her children of what she's been doing.
    That's why I am curious bcoz not all filipina are honest. BTW, not only filipina here doing that, Thai wives are worst here.
     
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    Hi Panday Pera, I am a filipina, a wife to a scottish young man, we have 1 daughter, been married for more than 7 years Hohoho!!! :(
    What happen in glasgow few yrs back, we went to this big event. We met all his old friends from school. They are all drunk except me. His friend "Lucy" sitting next to him, they're chatting, while me sitting on the other side of my husband. It's actually the lady's fault, she's been rubbing my husbands legs, flirting, intimate talking, it's like I'm out of that moment. I was so angry and doesn't want to make any scene, ok fine I just kept my eye on them. We took a taxi and still they are like a couple, they are sitting next to each other while I'm sitting infront of them. My husband's problem is he's totally numb, & forget whenever his drunk. That's the problem. I was so mad and even now while I'm writing this & recall everything still I feel so hurt. Everytime we argue for(anything) until this moment of time, I always mentioned what she & him did infront of me, no respect at all. I know maybe I am so conservative but most filipina like this, very conservative. Sometimes I think I better look for a guy who can protect me, be proud of me, loving and romantic, but I cannot do it now, I have a daughter. My wee one is the only strenght I have. I should write this to dr. phil website for an advice he he :smile: Anybody here can give your opinion/suggestions of what I'm gonna do about this little problem of mine. BTW, if we don't have a child probably I'm gone long ago, & just being single for the rest of my life. Well that's me...
     
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    If all he ever did was flirt with a female friend of his while drinking in your presence, then I am inclined to think you may be over-reacting a bit. (And it is well-documented that the jealously gene runs strong in the Filipina...)
     
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    d_guru, I know that I am over-reacting & filipina are so selosa type. It's not easy for me to forget & forgive.( I have to stop here)
    Anyway, We are loving, loyal, and crazy if we're in love. That is the reason why we are soooo selosa. These are some of the few aspects filipina has. and pyscho.... :smile:
     
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    This was making the rounds a few years ago...not a lot different down here either...

    Why White Men Prefer Asian Women


    There is near me an Asian sushi-beer-and-dinner establishment that
    I'll call the Asia Spot. The region is urban, so the clientele is a
    mix of some of just about everything, but the waitresses are all
    Asian, principally Japanese, Indonesian, Vietnamese, and Thai.

    The Spot is a neighborhood bar. A large after-work crowd, many of
    them regulars, gather at happy hour. The social dynamics are
    curious. It would be an exaggeration to say, as someone did, that
    the black guys come to pick up white women, and the white men come
    to get away from them – but it would be an exaggeration of an
    underlying truth. The waitresses are a large part of the Spot's
    appeal.

    A common subject of conversation among male customers is how very
    attractive these women are when compared to American women. It is
    not a thought safe to utter in mixed company. It is a very common
    thought. American women know it.

    Why are the Asians attractive? What, to huge numbers of men, makes
    almost any Asian more appealing than almost any American? The
    question is much discussed by men at the Spot. (I should say here
    that when I say "women," I mean the majority of women, the
    mainstream, the center of gravity. Yes, there are exceptions and
    degrees.)

    American women of my acquaintance offer several explanations, all of
    them wrong. For example, they say that Asian women are sexually
    easy. No. American women are sexually easy. The waitresses at the
    Spot are not available. They date, but they cannot be picked up.

    Another explanation popular among American women is that men want
    submissive women, which Asians are believed to be. Again, no. For
    one thing, submissive people are bland and boring. In any event the
    waitresses aren't submissive. Many compete successfully in tough
    professions. Among Asian waitresses I know I count an electrical
    engineer who does wide-area networks, and a woman with a masters in
    biochemistry who, upon finding that research required a Ph.D and
    didn't pay, went back to school and became a dentist. Both of these
    wait tables to help out in the family restaurant.

    At the Spot I know a woman waitressing her way through a degree in
    computer security, a bright Japansese college graduate making a
    career in the restaurant business, and the manager of the Spot – not
    a light-weight job. Submissiveness has nothing to do with their
    attractiveness.

    Why, then, are they so very appealing?

    To begin with, look at the American women in the Spot. Perhaps a
    third of them are stylishly dressed. The rest of the gringas run
    from undistinguished to dumpster-casual: baggy jeans, oversize
    shirts -- often male shirts -- with the tails out. They seem to
    affect a sort of homeless chic, actually to want to look bad, and do
    it with more than a touch of androgyny. A high proportion are at
    least somewhat overweight. (So are the men, but that's another
    subject.) The Asians, without exception, are sleek, well-groomed,
    and dressed with an understated sexiness that never pushes trashy.

    Further, the Asians are what were once called "ladies," a thought
    repellant to feminists but very refreshing to men. Listen to the
    American women at neighboring tables, and you will frequently hear
    phrases like, "He's a f*cking piece of poo." In what appears to be
    a determined attempt to be men, they have adopted the mode of
    discourse of a male locker room and made it their normal language.
    The Asians, classier, better students of men, do not have foul
    mouths. They presumably know about body parts and bathroom
    functions, but do not believe that a woman raises her stature by
    referring to them constantly in mixed company.

    Men at the Spot, I have noticed, instantly understand that cloacal
    commentary is not wanted, and don't engage in it: In the presence of
    the civilized, men adopt the standards of civilization. Men also
    tend to think of women as women think of themselves. The Asians,
    without displaying vanity, clearly think well of themselves. And
    ought to.

    All in all, they give the impression that they do not want to be one
    of the guys. They want to be one of the girls. Here we come to the
    core of their appeal. Let me elaborate.

    The default position of American women is what men refer to as "the
    chip," a veiled truculence, mixed with a not-very-veiled hostility
    toward men and a shaky sense of sexual identity. The result is a
    touchiness reminiscent of hung-over ferrets. There is a bandsaw edge
    to them, a watching for any slight so that they can show that they
    aren't going to take it. They are poised to lash out in aggressive
    defense of their manhood.

    As best as I can tell, they don't like being women. There is the
    entire problem in five words.

    The Asians at the Spot show every indication that they do like being
    women. They do not seem to have anything to prove. Being happy with
    what they are allows them to be comfortable with what they are not –
    men. They are not competing to be what they can't be with people who
    can't be anything else. They don't have to establish their
    masculinity because they don't want it. They do not assume, as
    American women tend to, that femaleness is a diseased condition to
    be treated by male clothes, gutter language, and bad temper.

    I've spent many dozens of hours chatting with the gals at the Spot,
    and never seen a sign of the chip. For a man, the experience is
    wonderful beyond description – smart, pretty, classy women, who are
    women, and are not the enemy. As long as American women carry the
    chip, the Asian gals will eat them alive in the dating market.

    Note that the espousal of hostile obnoxiousness as a guiding
    philosophy appears to be an almost uniquely American horror. It
    certainly isn't requisite to independence of self-respect. I
    recently met a quite attractive blonde who, among other things, was
    smart, a long-haul motorcyclist, a student of the martial arts out
    of sheer athletic enjoyment of it, and an excellent marksman. She
    was also heterosexual, feminine, delightful company, and had no
    trace of "the chip." I was astonished. How was this possible, I
    wondered?

    She was Canadian.
     
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    Im the husband hu doesnt have a clue it came out of the blue

    UJ has it right, and I would add that generally speaking filipinas have a much higher moral ethics than most western women. Women in US usually go into marriage with the idea that if it doesn't work out they will get a divorce and all the money they can and move on. There seems to be a lack of commitment whereas filipinas are going to do their best to make it work out, and they usually do.
    Many western women are trying to compete with their man whereas the filipinas want to be partners not masters.
    Finally filipinas know how to love and be loved.

    Have a great day unless you have already decided otherwise.
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    FROM KAYLEIGHS HUSBAND I HAVE A SAY IN THIS DON'T I!!!!
    MY WIFE SEEMS TO WANT TO DIVORCE FOR SMALL REASONS.. IN MY MOTHER AND FATHERS DAY U WERE MEANT TO MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK.
    I HAVE NEVER BEEN UNFAITHFUL NEVER. LADY FRIENDS I HAVE HAD SINCE I WAS 11 YEARS OLD ARE A THREAT TO MY WIFE HENCE SHE WANTS A DIVORCE!!!!!
     
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    ps bet wen she reads this she will have more grounds to leave me..not a compassionate bone in her body.
     
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    Never been unfaithful never never never!!!!! So y all the fuss!!! Friends since childhood my dear not lovers
     
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    where is the live cam ???

    round 1: ... let's get it on....
     
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    How did he get in here? He doesn't know my password!! :mad:
     
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